First thing this morning I had a conversation with my wife about how I think the DS & MSM are going to try and use Monkeypox as the next excuse to lock people down.
Now, the thing is, I don't do this to dishearten her, as far as I'm concerned I'm just imparting information/opinion as a way of being forewarned.
However, she immediately got upset about how I was just saying that we had no future and why bother etc. I found this a bit confusing to be honest, but I was concerned I upset her so I tried to explain things a bit better.
I told her that I use this kind of information to gird my loins, to get my juices flowing and adopt a stronger 'fuck you' attitude towards the people trying to do these things - not to sow despondency.
Anyway, she comes out to see me in my office about 1/2 hour later to tell me she had decided to do more life-affirming things - such as some personal grooming and planning to fix the hot-tub, as well as arranging a visit to the range after work.
She can be an awful coward at times, but it seems the more I stand up to the narrative (and also to stand up to her fears) the braver she gets.
She is really trying hard to be brave, and I'm so proud of her. I'm a lucky man.
That's why I'm proud of her
Make sure you take the time to let her hear this from you. Positive reinforcement of positive acts, ignore the negative vibes but instead redirect.
I have learned never to put off telling her how I feel :)
We've been together 27 years now and I tell her I love her every day (well, almost every day).
My wife was unfortunate to have been saddled with a pig of a father who spared no effort in tearing her (and everyone else) down, even though he was a useless piece of shit himself. It leaves an impression that sort of thing, so open praise often gets ignored, yet the faintest hint of a look of negativity gets blown up out of all proportion.
The trial of my life ;)