I remember when my dad's parents had to live in nursing homes and assisted living for a long time because none of their 7 children could or would take care of them. (In my family's case we simply had no room and we were strapped for cash because my siblings and I were all still in school, otherwise I think my dad DID want to care for them). My grandparents had saved up a lot of money during their lives, probably over $1 million, and it was ALL spent on assisted living in less than 8 years. It really is a scam.