We are grateful that my deceased father in law had the foresight to plan well for my mother in law. He left the resources for her to be able to live independently in her own home. I am an RN, and I hired an LVN and two CNA to provide supportive care as her dementia diagnosis progresses. I assumed care of her after another family member was more focused on her resources and doing a poor job actually looking after her. I know that's a common story, and it's sad. My mother in law has no idea that she has a staff of 5 looking after her. She thinks some of my friends stop by every day to see her. That's exactly what I wanted.