Praying for him and his family, fren. I am not close to the area, nor do I know anything about alcoholism, but I can help you with the DM issue.

You can start by clicking on a poster's name. For instance, when I right click on aunome, a box comes up and gives me the option to 'open in a new window,' which I do. When I see your page, I can see all your posts and scroll through them or even reply or give a thumbs up or down. On the right side of the page I see a box that says 'about aumone.' I can see your post and comment scores, and when you joined. Under your scores, I see the words 'send message.' I click on that link and a box comes up allowing me to write you a message.

Now, when you respond to me, I will see a notification by the little bell in the upper right corner of my screen. I'll click on that in order to read it. On the left side of the screen I'll see links that say, create a message--unread -- messages ------comment --replies --sent-- and can click on any of those to perform that action. Good luck! Hopefully someone will post and you can now DM them.