Heard some lady at the grocery store patting herself on the back, wishing herself happy Father's Day. It got me thinking about this epidemic of single motherhood and all the awesome fruit its bearing for our country. Ladies, we love ya, but you're not fathers. Period. If you were, we wouldn't have these army of children wandering thebstreets w drugs and guns in our cities. They blame the fathers for not being there causing this shit, but then claim themselves as fathers. Foolish.
Disclaimer: a father who was raised by a single mother.
You just described my life to a T. Thank you for that.
I tried so hard to make it work. Had 2 kids. But the guy was an alcoholic, deadbeat, cheater and passive agressive. He gets to enjoy the good life, painting himself as the vicitim while I work. Thankfully I have a great husband now.
And for the those in the back who say I should have chose better.
I wonder how many men here have crazy ex wives with kids? But thats different?
I was sexualy abused, had a really dysfunctional family, and had my first kid at 16. Which I womaned up and raised to be a fine person. Both of my kids are in fact.
They work hard, are well behaved, and well loved. Before my husband came into the picture, tho he does help tremendously. Particularly to their self esteem and other complex aspects.
Not saying fathers are indispensable. But Im not a pushover brainlet that would let my kids run rampant.
Sometimes people have it hard and shit happens. Sexual abuse is high for women. Some people have no support. Some single moms really are just in a bad position trying to make it work. And sometimes, dudes can be shitty too.
I avoided two crazy ex wives via discernment, and had plenty of sex with both of them. And other crazies too. No pregnancies until I was ready for one. One doesn't magically just get pregnant for having sex. Especially with us whiteys it seems. Some people do suffer adversity, you are correct. In fact most of us do. That's not unique. The choices we make surrounding that are what make us different. I pray all THE CHILDREN that have had this adversity forced upon them.
I am not saying I am a victim. Or I didnt choose the choices I did. Or that I am not responsible for them.
Im saying don't call us all single mothers shit for being single mothers. Everyone makes mistakes, and sometimes life is hard.
A lot of ppl here seem to be under the impression women are the sole person to blame for the situation and are bad people for being in that situation. No fault to the guy.
Like "all men are victims of the system and its womens fault."
Sounds like BLM and feminist..
Men have it hard but don't fall for the victim bait and blame our women. Blame the elitist. Blame the individual not taking responsibility, not the group you hate.
(Not you, just here in general)
I hear you! I'm not saying single moms are shit, mine was amazing. I'm just saying they aren't fathers, so they shouldn't play like they are. Distinctly different roles. I have come to terms that I harbor some resentment towards both of my parents for jot working it out so that's a valid observation. . Their issue was just not getting along. No abuse or neglect so blessed there!
Not placing blame or criticism, just saying mom's are not fathers, and do acknowledge that many guys aren't either, even if they have kids.