Have an ex wife & one of my best female friends (like a little sister) who were sexually abused. Neither could accept men or friends that weren't tearing them down, or hurting them somehow.
That "little sis" made it clear to me after my divorce that she could see all the signs in my ex that she suffered from during a time when she couldn't marry a man I introduced her to. She told me she just couldn't accept that a man could really forgive her & be so gentle & kind. She still beats herself up over it to this day because she saw how well he treated other girls he dated & finally married.
Patience & long-suffering are under appreciated IMO.
Have an ex wife & one of my best female friends (like a little sister) who were sexually abused. Neither could accept men or friends that weren't tearing them down, or hurting them somehow.
That "little sis" made it clear to me after my divorce that she could see all the signs in my ex that she suffered from during a time when she couldn't marry a man I introduced her to. She told me she just couldn't accept that a man could really forgive her & be so gentle & kind. She still beats herself up over it to this day because she saw how well he treated other girls he dated & finally married.
Patience & long-suffering are under appreciated IMO.
I hate people that abuse others.
You & me both.