Iβm getting really close. Ending our 30th Anniversary vacation in WA trying to help my mom move down with us to MO and dealing with worldβs most impossible irrational person isnβt proving fun.
She has Osteoarthritis and keeps breaking bones and just had two emergency back surgeries and my youngest brother took pictures of her house, turning her in to adult protective services to get it condemned. 40+ years of hoarding with literal goat trails and her 1979 mobile home is full of black mold and ceiling giving out. All she will do is blame everyone else and make mean comments. My siblings are all writing her off and dumping on me now.
Thanks. She has always had a mean streak a mile wide and I usually got the worst of it but Iβm now finding out that my much younger siblings got the brunt of it when I moved out at nineteen (the first second I got a chance) and they were still little. She divorced my dad when I was seven, remarried a year later and began a new family. Now the mean streak is ten miles wide. Iβm really close to telling her βIβm done tooβ because Iβm already getting knots in my stomach over it. Hadnβt seen her in the two years since we left WA and she is so much worse and her health is too. She told me yesterday she can just air out and bleach things and that those with a clean house are lazy. πππππ. When I asked how she planned to bleach black mold from her insulation-crickets.
I will be praying for your family. In my experience, waiting the person out is hard because there is no reasoning with those whose cognitive functions aren't working right no matter the reason. Strokes, alcohol, drugs including rx, do things to the brain that are just starting to be understood. I have found it hardest to just accept them as they are and concentrate on what I can actually do anything about. Please don't forget to take care of yourself.
I have already heard many times as a kid how worthless and hated she think I am because I was my dadβs kid. My siblings are from her second marriage.
I went through this also with my father in law who lived in another state. Same thing - hoarding, moldy mobile home, floor falling in, bug infestation. In retrospect my husband and I wish we would have let him be or let social services find him a place to live.
Instead we took him in temporarily. The entire situation harmed the state of our marriage, and it took almost 2 years to recover from 4 months of dealing with him. He went to live with another relative in another state who later died, and the person who got the house in the will cannot get him out! (NY, covid, refuses to leave) It is a hot mess! All for a POS who had very little to do with my husband his entire life and would only contact him every couple of years when he needed money.
His other children had enough sense to write him off decades ago.
I live my mom and donβt want her to die alone especially in that mess but I am feeling more incluned to leave her in nursing care where the right people can care for her. I just had a spinal fusion in March (3rd back surgery) another back injury amd Iβm permanently wheelchair bound and my husbamd has had an aortic dissection in 2018 and surgery a tear later but still has a few Un repaired parts and if he has another dissection, heβs just dead, no time to get to hospital. I already told her I canβt move her until I get a caregiver who can come help out.
I think you have to upload them to an image hosting site and then you share the link to them. If you were to make a post, however, you could upload a photo directly from your phone/pc.
Navigate to where your photos are and select one. Or if you're on a computer you can just drag and drop the file/photo into the "Select or drop files" blue box.
Once you've done that you just need to click or tap on the link that pops up within the blue box and that should copy the link for you. You will have to do this for every photo that you have and each photo will have a different link. Once you get your links then you can add them when you make a comment here.
Iβm getting really close. Ending our 30th Anniversary vacation in WA trying to help my mom move down with us to MO and dealing with worldβs most impossible irrational person isnβt proving fun. She has Osteoarthritis and keeps breaking bones and just had two emergency back surgeries and my youngest brother took pictures of her house, turning her in to adult protective services to get it condemned. 40+ years of hoarding with literal goat trails and her 1979 mobile home is full of black mold and ceiling giving out. All she will do is blame everyone else and make mean comments. My siblings are all writing her off and dumping on me now.
Went through this same scenario about two years ago. God bless you. Praying for his amazing grace for you.
Thank you
I'm so sorry. It's hard as they get older.
Thanks. She has always had a mean streak a mile wide and I usually got the worst of it but Iβm now finding out that my much younger siblings got the brunt of it when I moved out at nineteen (the first second I got a chance) and they were still little. She divorced my dad when I was seven, remarried a year later and began a new family. Now the mean streak is ten miles wide. Iβm really close to telling her βIβm done tooβ because Iβm already getting knots in my stomach over it. Hadnβt seen her in the two years since we left WA and she is so much worse and her health is too. She told me yesterday she can just air out and bleach things and that those with a clean house are lazy. πππππ. When I asked how she planned to bleach black mold from her insulation-crickets.
I will be praying for your family. In my experience, waiting the person out is hard because there is no reasoning with those whose cognitive functions aren't working right no matter the reason. Strokes, alcohol, drugs including rx, do things to the brain that are just starting to be understood. I have found it hardest to just accept them as they are and concentrate on what I can actually do anything about. Please don't forget to take care of yourself.
I have already heard many times as a kid how worthless and hated she think I am because I was my dadβs kid. My siblings are from her second marriage.
I went through this also with my father in law who lived in another state. Same thing - hoarding, moldy mobile home, floor falling in, bug infestation. In retrospect my husband and I wish we would have let him be or let social services find him a place to live.
Instead we took him in temporarily. The entire situation harmed the state of our marriage, and it took almost 2 years to recover from 4 months of dealing with him. He went to live with another relative in another state who later died, and the person who got the house in the will cannot get him out! (NY, covid, refuses to leave) It is a hot mess! All for a POS who had very little to do with my husband his entire life and would only contact him every couple of years when he needed money.
His other children had enough sense to write him off decades ago.
Life is too short to help certain people!
I live my mom and donβt want her to die alone especially in that mess but I am feeling more incluned to leave her in nursing care where the right people can care for her. I just had a spinal fusion in March (3rd back surgery) another back injury amd Iβm permanently wheelchair bound and my husbamd has had an aortic dissection in 2018 and surgery a tear later but still has a few Un repaired parts and if he has another dissection, heβs just dead, no time to get to hospital. I already told her I canβt move her until I get a caregiver who can come help out.
How can I add photos??
Thanks, I really need it.
I think you have to upload them to an image hosting site and then you share the link to them. If you were to make a post, however, you could upload a photo directly from your phone/pc.
https://catbox.moe/
To this post? My grow. Kids call me a technotard if that tells you anything
Go to this site https://catbox.moe/
Tap on "Select or drop files"
Navigate to where your photos are and select one. Or if you're on a computer you can just drag and drop the file/photo into the "Select or drop files" blue box.
Once you've done that you just need to click or tap on the link that pops up within the blue box and that should copy the link for you. You will have to do this for every photo that you have and each photo will have a different link. Once you get your links then you can add them when you make a comment here.
Here's an example of what a link looks like -
https://files.catbox.moe/pnpv5a.jpg
Is there a way to combine text and photo?
Sure. You can open a file/photo into an app such as MS Paint and add the text from there. Not sure what the best app for that would be, though.