I'm 52. I married at 21 to my "high school sweetheart". She wasn't what I thought she was then and has gotten worse over the years. Day-to-day stuff is perfect between us, but when it comes to serious truth we are in dire straights.
At 19, I had sex with another girl during a breakup and kept it from my future wife. Turns out my future wife wasn't the virgin like I was when we met, and even had sex with my friend after we were married when I said okay. (You can jump off the local bridge too; She didn't take me up on that one, haha) To this day I have been faithful in marriage and she has too other than that one time years ago.
But the biggest issue is abortion. My wife supports it. I was an adopted child of a rape and I absolutely detest abortion. My mother could have gotten one in 1970 in Arkansas but she didn't. At 19, she gave birth to me, put me up for adoption and went into the Air Force.
She went on to marry and have two more children, work for the postal service and air national guard and retire comfortably.
Also, my wife wouldn't listen to me when her job required the vax. I said don't do it, no job is worth it. She got one Pfizer jab anyway. Thankfully she hasn't gotten another and her batch number looks like a less deadly one so far.
I have scriptural grounds for divorce, but I don't think I should. I feel like I should keep trying. Hopefully I won't be another Lot waiting for the day my wife looks back...
Any anons out there sympathize with my pain? Please share.
We just had our 42nd wedding anniversary. My husband and I are diametrically opposed on many issues but are in agreement on other important matters. I’d take a bullet for Trump, he hates him. He took the jab I didn’t. I’m pro life, he’s pro choice. I’m right, he’s left. Let me tell you, we have lots of animated discussions. I am so proud of the man he is and he is a very accomplished and kind man. He tells me and others that I am amazing. After all this time we’re still mad about each other. It’s not necessary in a relationship to have the same opinion on issues as your spouse. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, especially regarding politics and religion. You did say that the day to day stuff was perfect in your relationship.
For sure. My girlfriend is a Godless heathen, but she is great. We don't tend to talk politically, and she doesn't agree with me on things so we just focus on other things because we are more than just our political beliefs or spiritual beliefs.
It's just important that these disagreements don't create rifts and resentment towards each other. I think that's probably the biggest killer from everything I read about people with core disagreements.