I'm 52. I married at 21 to my "high school sweetheart". She wasn't what I thought she was then and has gotten worse over the years. Day-to-day stuff is perfect between us, but when it comes to serious truth we are in dire straights.
At 19, I had sex with another girl during a breakup and kept it from my future wife. Turns out my future wife wasn't the virgin like I was when we met, and even had sex with my friend after we were married when I said okay. (You can jump off the local bridge too; She didn't take me up on that one, haha) To this day I have been faithful in marriage and she has too other than that one time years ago.
But the biggest issue is abortion. My wife supports it. I was an adopted child of a rape and I absolutely detest abortion. My mother could have gotten one in 1970 in Arkansas but she didn't. At 19, she gave birth to me, put me up for adoption and went into the Air Force.
She went on to marry and have two more children, work for the postal service and air national guard and retire comfortably.
Also, my wife wouldn't listen to me when her job required the vax. I said don't do it, no job is worth it. She got one Pfizer jab anyway. Thankfully she hasn't gotten another and her batch number looks like a less deadly one so far.
I have scriptural grounds for divorce, but I don't think I should. I feel like I should keep trying. Hopefully I won't be another Lot waiting for the day my wife looks back...
Any anons out there sympathize with my pain? Please share.
I have a conviction about the unique and unrepeatable nature of each human being. We are not "dispensable." Respect for human life in itself means allowing the growth process and not interrupting it violently. No offense, but you don't seem to appreciate that right to life we all have from the moment our life begins. Why is late term worse than early term to you? It's a timeline and it plays out again and again and that's how we all began. Sincerely, don't you feel your life is special? Have you ever seen the classic movie, "It's a Wonderful Life?" It's shown every Christmas and the themes are deep in this regard.
Thank you for your thoughtful response. We differ because for me, spontaneous "abortion" (miscarriage at any stage) is not caused by the actions of a person intending to end that life. I am a believer, so I can only say that God is the author of life and the only ONE entitled to call us home in His own time. I know that many parents are deeply grieved over the miscarriage of their children, so in a general way, that is cause for all of us to have sympathy for those in that situation. But when a perfectly viable pregnancy is interrupted by another human being, for me that is making oneself the arbiter of life and death. It is taking the life of another human being. And not painlessly. I'm more of a philosophic type so when I said, what does it matter the stage, I was referring to the inherent evil in taking another human being's life, no matter how "far along" they are in their lifespan. The law does not permit people, parents or relatives, etc. to kill children who are in difficult family or social circumstances. There is always hope for a brighter future and countless lives have borne this out. The whole point in question is whether we have a right to take that life to "maybe, possibly" prevent suffering in the future. I completely disagree that we have that right as fellow human beings. Also to be considered are the appalling numbers; when the count is 60 million lives ended violently in the last 50 years, we have to take some action as members of the human family. The voiceless unborn cannot demand their chance at their own lives. Loss of that many affects us all. I think we struggle to get our heads around that number.