I'm 52. I married at 21 to my "high school sweetheart". She wasn't what I thought she was then and has gotten worse over the years. Day-to-day stuff is perfect between us, but when it comes to serious truth we are in dire straights.
At 19, I had sex with another girl during a breakup and kept it from my future wife. Turns out my future wife wasn't the virgin like I was when we met, and even had sex with my friend after we were married when I said okay. (You can jump off the local bridge too; She didn't take me up on that one, haha) To this day I have been faithful in marriage and she has too other than that one time years ago.
But the biggest issue is abortion. My wife supports it. I was an adopted child of a rape and I absolutely detest abortion. My mother could have gotten one in 1970 in Arkansas but she didn't. At 19, she gave birth to me, put me up for adoption and went into the Air Force.
She went on to marry and have two more children, work for the postal service and air national guard and retire comfortably.
Also, my wife wouldn't listen to me when her job required the vax. I said don't do it, no job is worth it. She got one Pfizer jab anyway. Thankfully she hasn't gotten another and her batch number looks like a less deadly one so far.
I have scriptural grounds for divorce, but I don't think I should. I feel like I should keep trying. Hopefully I won't be another Lot waiting for the day my wife looks back...
Any anons out there sympathize with my pain? Please share.
It is a decision only you can make. It helps to have a pro and cons list, award every item on that list a weighing factor. Then calculate the result. Be forward looking.
A divorce often can turn sour, and if you have kids that may be the biggest hurdle, especially with CPS and the way the law works.
Also look at your situation. Do you have a support net, or will it mean you are back on your own?
And, is there really no skyhook? What is her reason to stay with you? Or has she already left the building and is eating side dishes?
What exactly did you promise? And how will your divorce reflect on meeting that promise.look like.
It reminds me of.Paradise by the dashboardlight. It is a terrible place.to have to pray for the end of time, to end your time.with her. People, have a habit of growing, and sometimes that growth path was only a matter of overlap in the beginning.
I could cite you chapter and verse on this issue, yet I would not. For the simple reason you already know the scripture.
Wisdom comes from inside of you, and only you can decide what to do.
As far as my own divorce, I am happy I did that and when I last spoke with the ex, she indicated to be very happy with her life. Much better than when we were together. The fear to go through the hoopla is often what causes them to put their heels in the sand.
And as my daughter says.... It was the best decision I have made. Why? Because it allowed her to break free, and pursue her own goals, away from the corrosive idiocies that her mother then espoused.
And I have to say, her.mother took a lesson or two from the whole affair.
So, I am not against well founded divorce. Sometimes you have to choose to cut the ties and be at peace in a humble situation, than in a palace with a leaking roof.