It is a decision only you can make. It helps to have a pro and cons list, award every item on that list a weighing factor. Then calculate the result. Be forward looking.

A divorce often can turn sour, and if you have kids that may be the biggest hurdle, especially with CPS and the way the law works.

Also look at your situation. Do you have a support net, or will it mean you are back on your own?

And, is there really no skyhook? What is her reason to stay with you? Or has she already left the building and is eating side dishes?

What exactly did you promise? And how will your divorce reflect on meeting that promise.look like.

It reminds me of.Paradise by the dashboardlight. It is a terrible place.to have to pray for the end of time, to end your time.with her. People, have a habit of growing, and sometimes that growth path was only a matter of overlap in the beginning.

I could cite you chapter and verse on this issue, yet I would not. For the simple reason you already know the scripture.

Wisdom comes from inside of you, and only you can decide what to do.

As far as my own divorce, I am happy I did that and when I last spoke with the ex, she indicated to be very happy with her life. Much better than when we were together. The fear to go through the hoopla is often what causes them to put their heels in the sand.

And as my daughter says.... It was the best decision I have made. Why? Because it allowed her to break free, and pursue her own goals, away from the corrosive idiocies that her mother then espoused.

And I have to say, her.mother took a lesson or two from the whole affair.

So, I am not against well founded divorce. Sometimes you have to choose to cut the ties and be at peace in a humble situation, than in a palace with a leaking roof.