I really think that the people down-voting these comments live in some kind of idealized 2010, or before, past. The dating world has change so drastically and completely since around 2010 that it's not even recognizable anymore.

The "just go out there and earn it and be confident and work out and dress better" crowd are truly and utterly clueless. I am a very confident man. I don't walk around staring at my shoes. I keep my head up, shoulders back, make eye contact, smile and am very sociable. I work out daily. I dress well, but not flashy... but I'm a swipe-right to the vast majority of women because I don't hit first six in the 666 rule.

Then I'll see a 6' tall dude meeting a woman out somewhere that I know she matched on a dating app. You can just tell when a couple is meeting the first time from a dating app. I can take one look at this dude and know he's gonna smash and trash her and then she'll be on tiktok tomorrow crying her eyes out about "Why do all the good men keep ghosting me after I let them smash me on the first date??!?"