When our daughter, M., was drying off her 5 yo daughter, G., on Tuesday night, she noticed what looked like brush burns on G's shoulder blades. Both G and her brother R, said that daughter's ex, T's fiancee , A., had pushed G against a motel wall this past weekend where they attended a rodeo with their dad,T. and his fiancee, A. . Daughter called police and filed a report in the town in which she lives. Yesterday, she went to file for a protective order. The judge denied it because there is a custody agreement in place. Our daughter was not asking for the order to be vacated, she's trying to protect G. This morning, my husband brought G to her pediatrician to have this on file. M had called the pediatrician to ask what she can do and this is what he suggested.
Today, M is going to the town where the incident occurred to try to file charges there. M texted me a few minutes ago asking that I ask everyone for prayers. I am so disgusted by the judge. T's dad is a bigwig at the local college. He has consistently gotten T off the hook from DUIs, leaving the scene of an accident, almost beating a guy to death. HATE who you know and who you blow justice system that refuses to protect a child.
Please send up prayers for our granddaughter G, her mom, M. and our family. Pray that justice is done to protect our darling little G.
UPDATE: The police detective she met with today took the abuse seriously. He will investigate! Thanks a million for your prayers!!!
UPDATE 2: Judge today refused an emergency custody order. She happens to be a neighbor of the ex.
T doesn't care that his fiancee shoved his daughter into a wall so hard that it scratched her? So your daughter is filing charges against the exe's fiancee, right? Was T there when this happened? Did he witness his fiancee rough-housing his daughter?
I would think the judge could at least honor the custody agreement while prohibiting the kids' visitation with their dad while that bully fiancee is there. Although, from how you describe him I'm not sure he's exactly a role model for the kids either. In a perfect world T would grow up, get rid of his demons, dump the fiancee and become a solid father to his two precious children.
Good luck, in any case, and praying for God's protection over your family. 🙏✝️
T wasn't in the room and the fiancee didn't tell him from what our daughter understands.. Apparently he went out with his friends and left his girlfriend to babysit the children. He did defend his fiancee though.
Oh, he's no role model. We keep praying that he will buck up.
You know, here on this board we have to wrap our minds around knowledge of the most heinous realities imaginable yet we can't lose sight of having to deal with the commonplace transgressions done by people in everyday life. It feels like a near-constant barrage set against us (and our loved ones) at times.
Maybe your daughter can calmly and without screaming ask her exe to consider that, while the two of them are adults who just couldn't get along enough to sustain the marriage, and, while raising kids can be challenging at times, never once did either of them knock their kids into a wall (I'm assuming this is the case). She can ask him to consider just how hard you have to push someone for it to scratch their skin. Have her ask him how he thinks she's supposed to process this and what would he be feeling if it happened by a boyfriend of hers to one of the kids. Have her remind him that this is not about her nor him, but about their children. Keep the focus on the kids' safety.
Apparently he does want to see his kids so he's not as bad as some exes who turn their backs on not just their ex-spouse, but on their own children as well. On another good note, while you don't have control over how another adult chooses to behave, it sounds as if you've got a loving family and your precious grandchildren will be able to thrive and blossom in a loving environment.
Hang in there and know that prayers for peace and healing are sent to all involved.
Thanks so much for your suggestions, ThinQ! I will definitely share them with our daughter tomorrow.