American sign language.
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Do you get offended if people recognize that you are deaf? Or talk about someone that is deaf, not in a bad way but as a statement of fact? Example, my stepfather was deaf, and he liked to go to plays. They would always be put up front so he could read lips. Ther was a woman that said we were being offensive to him for treating him different. He didn't get offended, he was rather amused, and she got shut down really quick. He also thought it was funny when people talked real low so he couldn't hear them, derp he read lips mostly.
I am asking as the guy on street that asked black people if they thought voter ID was racist.
Typically no, but I hate it when people talks to me but I didn't see them talking until I felt their stare poring at me (they'd be standing next to me while I'm looking away from them but I can see out on the corner of my eye that their body is turned toward me) and I'd turn to them and say, "I'm deaf" and then they'd go, "Oh! I'm so sorry!", "I'm so sorry to hear that!" or "Oh I didn't know that! I'm so sorry" (For that last comment, well no shit Sherlock, I don't have a sign flashing above me saying, "This person is deaf!" so it's not their fault for not knowing that!)
I don't need their pity, just treat me like you would toward anyone else in general (i.e. The Golden Rule) and keep talking to me normally and I'll let you know if I understand you or I need you to write it down. They could have said, "Oh ok no problem, I was saying blah blah". I do get that kind of comment once in a while, but it's almost always the "sorry" response.
Sometimes I'd be told that I write/speak well for a deaf person and I do find it a bit offensive because it shows how ignorant they are as they probably thought not only are we deaf, but we also are retarded. Same for when they got surprised when I told them I have a driver's license and they'd be like, "Deaf people can drive?! WOW!"
I get it that people are curious about how a deaf person live their life and I'm completely fine with answering questions. If people go like "Deaf people can do that?!" Or "Wow you can do that?! I find it hard to believe but wow!" would rub me the wrong way, if you know what I mean? I understand that all people are different but the ones who are oblivious to everything, would act like an asshole without realizing what they're doing.
I've met some strange people who would act odd or erratically around me like sometimes they'd pretend they know sign language and they'd be throwing their hands around, mimicking sign language and I cringed but had to maintain my composure in order to get out of the situation ASAP.
Also, I hate it when I have an appointment with someone like a doctor and we would have the interpreter present to relay our conversation. The doctor would go, "Tell him that he needs to do this and that." as if I'm not there in the room with them. Sometimes I'd get an interpreter who will tell the doctor that they need to address me normally like, "You/Your" instead of "he/his". Don't get me wrong, it's not that stupid "SJW pronoun" thing but it's common sense when they are speaking to me through a medium, they need to address me the correct way and they need to "pretend" the interpreter is not there.
I've noticed that all of the ignorant comments/remarks usually come from Democrats, which is why I knew that I shouldn't be a Democrat or vote Democrat.
Ah there's many more but then I'd be writing a book! But yeah, the bottom line is all people are different and their comment/response would either be a positive one or a negative one but that's human behavior and I don't argue with them. I just nod and move on when I get uncomfortable. The majority of the deaf community, on the other hand, will pick a fight with you. They'd go as far as try to correct you in an aggressive way or yell at you if they get offended and that's why I try to keep my distance from the majority of the deaf community.
Yeah, I used to go to the movies before they had closed captioning devices and I'd just sit and watch the action, analyze the people's face expressions and try to understand what's going on. I don't mind at all as it was very relaxing for me plus I love the theater experience. Nowadays? Ugh. Too many SJW movies so I can't stomach them all.
As for the people who think they are white knights are very annoying because they think they know what we need. They're usually wrong 99% of the time. Again, that's why I don't like Democrats because they act like white knights around me and go far and beyond to help me in the most unnecessary way. That's usually when I'd get very, very uncomfortable but I had to grin and bear it until they go away.
I know I should just tell them to fuck off, but you know, with how crazy they can be, you'd never know what they'd do when they get offended. Pre-2016 or so, it would probably have been possible for me to simply say, "Thanks Karen, but you can kindly fuck off, I don't need your help" but post 2016 or so, I probably would get shanked, strangled or get shot at. I'd rather keep on living as opposed to be 6 feet deep because a Karen got told to fuck off.
If you got any more questions, let me know! I'd be more than happy to answer them all!