nope not how it works with me I hope and wish for others. what if you lose someone to an old person that shouldn't be driving? imho we need to take blame where we should and realize life is fleeting and it's a dangerous world. to be hit head on would indicate both parties must have been distracted. if someone is veering into your lane you should be aware and making your best move to avoid it although I certainly recognize this can be difficult in the moment and there may be no escape route in certain circumstances

my mother was killed by a doctor. he fucked up bad. my reaction was to communicate with that doctor and hear him acknowledge he fucked up. he did that. I could have used the shit out of him and the hospital but I believe we need to forgive and spread love, not hate and revenge. even if selfishly, carrying that much anger and continually revisiting things of this nature I believe ways heavily on the soul and only serves to kill you figuratively and literally whether mentally or physically or both