Thank you for all your advice and kind comments frens. Joys1daughter ,we do have a code word but the first thing he does is takes her phone when he gets in the door. I have gone and bought another Sim card this morning that I will activate in my name and put it in one of my old phones and tell her to hide it so she can msg or ring me or call emergency services on it so if he pinched her phone she has some way of contacting someone. She lives rural which means she's pretty isolated and can't just run next door if she's in trouble. The local abuse agency didn't even show up when they said they would,they're useless.