I agree in some ways with this - and admit that it does play into identity politics a bit. but the thing is that's the game which is being played right now. It's a bad game to play but look around - every group gets a shiny label they can embrace and celebrate for a whole month every year - every group but one.

Part of that has been accepting the label which has been forced upon us, which is now so dragged through the mud that it has become a bad-word and certainly not associated with anything good,.

So instead we should simply, calmly, firmly be demanding the correct term be used. It's a self respect thing.