I am so sorry.

I worked with high school youth at my church a while back. Our church draws from a number of school districts, so the kids do not attend the same school.

One girl told of an incident at her school where there was a group of 4 guys who were all good friends. Within a matter of 5-6 weeks, 3 out of the 4 committed suicide.

The girl was pretty shaken up.

I let her talk and asked clarifying questions only. Basically, she drove the conversation.

Once she said everything she needed to say, I started guiding.

My first concern was that her faith life was still intact. So her knowing that she is deeply loved by Jesus and his salvific work on the cross has washed away her sins was paramount.

Next, we talked about them choosing a permanent solution to a temporary problem(s). This is never a good idea. Empathy, not judging, is how I used my words.

Then we talked about how dark life can seem at times. It is in these moments Satan chooses to strike to trick us into thinking that suicide is the only way out. We need to remember how deeply we are loved by Jesus and that this is temporary.

Lastly, we talked about the boys.

For the 3 who committed suicide, I stated that we turn the matter over to God, trusting in his wisdom, goodness, love, and faithfulness to do what is right. We do not, cannot, know ALL aspects. God does. The matter is in his hands, not ours. Be at peace.

We prayed for the one remaining boy. For him to know the love of Jesus. She was not sure if he had a saving relationship with Jesus.

Shortly after this, we went into COVID lockdown and then my life went in a different direction so I do not know how it turned out.

I hope that this helps. This is kind of tersely written, when speaking I use a much more softer approach and use sensitivity in my word choices. The message is identical however.

Again, I am sorry for your loss. Blessings upon you and your son and your conversations.