Feeling so alone after the recent loss of my father / this community wrapped me in their arms - helped me back to my feet … I can’t thank each and everyone of you who sent condolences and spiritual guidance… Honestly during my lowest point this last week your messages of kindness and support reminded me that God does exist in us and there are good people in this world.
Thank you all and I promise to ‘Pay it forward’ …
Respectfully Toe34
They say time heals but I feel like it just helps you get past the deep hurt and lets you keep living, it does take time, but it will get easier to keep going, to keep living your life. It takes time for us to learn to live without the loved one we lost. The hurt will still be there, just easier to endure.
I lost my grandmother in 2016 and my mother in 2017. Both strong independent women who would give you the shirt off their back or pillow from under their heads if their family needed it. It was a very hard few years for me, was very close to both of them, helped take care of them before they passed, and was standing there beside them when they went to heaven. Still miss them very much, but it does take time to learn to live without them in our lives. It's getting less and less that I think that I have to call them to tell them some new thing happening. Now if I need to talk to them, I just say out loud what I want to say and keep going about my day, I know they hear me.
Just talk to your father out loud when you have something to say to him, he will hear you. Watch for signs he sends you, like things you may have had in common, maybe hearing a phrase he always said, a song playing on the radio, a cardinal that comes in your yard and sings. He will put things in front of you to show you he hears you and loves you. Basically, things that will make you think of him.
I'm truly sorry for your loss Toe34
Well said.