Yah, was gonna say that. When wrong has been done, then indeed, forgiveness is what we give to free ourselves, not to free the wrongdoer (although it may certainly help them).
For the other, being accountable or paying the penance is what frees them.
If you cannot forgive, you are locked into the transgression every bit as much as the transgressor. Basic spiritual law, 101.
Yah, was gonna say that. When wrong has been done, then indeed, forgiveness is what we give to free ourselves, not to free the wrongdoer (although it may certainly help them).
For the other, being accountable or paying the penance is what frees them.
If you cannot forgive, you are locked into the transgression every bit as much as the transgressor. Basic spiritual law, 101.