Hi all,
I know a lot of you are very smart so I wanted to seek your advice. Currently, I'm in my late thirties and come from a good family background. However, I don't have any long-lasting friends and my love life is non-existent. However, I do try to meet people and get along with them, but in the end it never works out.
I've never had a real girlfriend before, although I've tried dating and never got too far. After trying so many times and failing, it's starting to feel like it's not meant to be. I also feel like I don't relate to the general populace. Most are unawake to the realities of the world and are brainwashed by media and popular opinion. I tend to go against the grain and because of that, it's hard for others to relate to me.
I also I have aspirations to do something amazing and believe I have the potential to do that, but I am unsure how to go about that. I don't have anyone to guide me so everything comes from the top of my dome. I'm happy to be alive, but I have a strong desire to do something notable and great. But I'm afraid that desire might not be enough.
What do you suggest I do to live a better life?
Is the question, "What do you suggest..." an ethical one, or a personal one? It could be answered one of two ways.
The fact that you took the time to post a question anonymously on a fringe board, suggests some things. You share some details about yourself and your life, but not enough to get a really meaningful or detailed answer. If you are indeed, serious, one could assume that you are feeling lonely and a bit unfulfilled. On the other hand, are you looking at a potential future association to propel you towards your desire to "...do something notable and great?" These are usually considered two different things.
If you are, in fact, lonely and unfulfilled, I would look more closely at your self-description of "...I don't have any long-lasting friends..." Why is that? I suspect this might also have some impact upon your difficulty with dating. I know it's difficult to meet conservative, traditional women, but they ARE out there.
I would say, make sure your fears about relationships aren't sabotaging your efforts before the point where relationships get interesting.
Best wishes.