They separate attraction from presentation, and both from biology. And then, with others’ attraction as well as with the bathroom situation, they insist that the important thing is presentation, not biology. And they get mad when anyone questions any of this.

The whole system is deliberately opaque so that they can do whatever and be treated however they want, whenever they want. They achieve this by juggling around and (selectively) interchangeably using “orientation”, “gender” and “sex”. The end result? It’s not gay unless that word fits their ideal fantasy.