No society is perfect. You obviously have strong feelings, and I don't know anything about your story, so I am in no position to comment. I do know the story of some friends in China and many throughout Asia. They aren't bad people. Many value the family over themselves. And that also extends in a reduced fashion to the village and the nation. Before you condemn the values of another culture based on your own values though, I recommend you try to live for a while in their shoes. The government in China certainly has many flaws, as does the government in the USA.

But I did give you my reasons why I believe Xi is on our side. Namely openly going against the war diatribe of the western nations. You choose to reject that for what I believe is a questionable reason. I don't know for sure, but neither do you. You are certainly as welcome to your opinion as I am to mine, and I am grateful that forums like this exist where we can all present our viewpoints without fear of being cancelled.