If your name is David, and you prefer being called Dave, or Bob, or even Alice... I'll call you whatever you prefer. Because I'm not an asshole. Only an asshole would purposely use a name/nickname someone doesn't like.
In the same way, I'll even try to use your 'preferred pronoun' even though I think it's stupid. I may think that calling you Dave instead of David is stupid - especially if I've called you David for the entire time I've known you. But, I'll still try, because I'm not an asshole.
All I ask in return, is that when I fuck it up (because I will, though not intentionally) that you don't become an asshole. That you realize you are outside the norm. I won't be an asshole. You won't be an asshole. We'll get along fine.
But if you get pissed because I accidentally use the wrong pronoun, or the wrong nickname, all bets are off.
I'm into being what you consider 'an asshole' to people destroying themselves with delusions. Cause placating clearly doesn't help. But I'm not the asshole, these abnormal people are. Get it straight. It doesn't matter how nice you think you are, these people are generally implaccable. You are ignorantly exhibiting evil by my metric helping facilitate, I understand you'd say I'm exhibiting evil. But that's just because you've moved closer to them than you realize, while I've not budged on insanity. It'd be different if this were complicated issues. Its not. It's as fundamental and basic as life can be.
I agree with you 100%. If you go along with their insanity, you're just enabling them and not doing anyone any favors. I'm a nice guy but people need to hear the truth (and The Truth). That's not to say that they should be accosted publicly with the issue but if they bring it up, they should be told. I think public shaming would go a long way in these instances.
Amen, it's called tough love for a reason. I get ads routinely for self help companies where the lady asks herself "...am I gay?" Then goodness knows what these self help companies teach them. If there is no abrasive hardliners, they'll never hear the truth from anyone, then it actually becomes our problem and fault like it has via the current infestation.
If a grown man believes he's a woman and lists his "she/her" pronouns in his email signature, it's not hurting me directly.
I don't have a problem with Dave or Bob asking me to call him Alice.
I do have a problem with Alice forcing my HR department to implement a training program that asks me to change my behaviors in order to cultivate a work environment conducive to the transition process.
I do have a problem being told my refusal to list my pronouns in my email signature is a micro-aggression.
I do have a problem being told it's my duty to show sensitivity, provide emotional support, and act in ways that affirm Alice's gender identity.
Yeah but when people try to use other pronouns and expect you to use them in return, it is hurting you. It's hurting you by further weakening truth. It weakens what we know to be reality.
If a grown man said he was a cat, would you oblige him and meow back?
It seems to me, that when people are insane, it serves them no benefit to oblige them in their madness. Because by doing so, it further entrenches them in their confused thought patterns. And likewise, by entering their world of insanity by playing along so to speak, it can gradually start to blur the lines of what society accepts as reality.
First it starts as putting your pronouns in an email signature...and then you have men in women's prisons.
Most assholes dont know they are assholes. Most stupid people dont know they are stupid. When you agree to play these stupid games with these stupid mentally ill assholes, well, my opinion is you are a stupid asshole. Just repeating what a fren told me, and yes Im an asshole. Differance... I know it.
I'm... Into not being an asshole to people.
If your name is David, and you prefer being called Dave, or Bob, or even Alice... I'll call you whatever you prefer. Because I'm not an asshole. Only an asshole would purposely use a name/nickname someone doesn't like.
In the same way, I'll even try to use your 'preferred pronoun' even though I think it's stupid. I may think that calling you Dave instead of David is stupid - especially if I've called you David for the entire time I've known you. But, I'll still try, because I'm not an asshole.
All I ask in return, is that when I fuck it up (because I will, though not intentionally) that you don't become an asshole. That you realize you are outside the norm. I won't be an asshole. You won't be an asshole. We'll get along fine.
But if you get pissed because I accidentally use the wrong pronoun, or the wrong nickname, all bets are off.
I'm into being what you consider 'an asshole' to people destroying themselves with delusions. Cause placating clearly doesn't help. But I'm not the asshole, these abnormal people are. Get it straight. It doesn't matter how nice you think you are, these people are generally implaccable. You are ignorantly exhibiting evil by my metric helping facilitate, I understand you'd say I'm exhibiting evil. But that's just because you've moved closer to them than you realize, while I've not budged on insanity. It'd be different if this were complicated issues. Its not. It's as fundamental and basic as life can be.
I agree with you 100%. If you go along with their insanity, you're just enabling them and not doing anyone any favors. I'm a nice guy but people need to hear the truth (and The Truth). That's not to say that they should be accosted publicly with the issue but if they bring it up, they should be told. I think public shaming would go a long way in these instances.
Amen, it's called tough love for a reason. I get ads routinely for self help companies where the lady asks herself "...am I gay?" Then goodness knows what these self help companies teach them. If there is no abrasive hardliners, they'll never hear the truth from anyone, then it actually becomes our problem and fault like it has via the current infestation.
If a grown man believes he's a woman and lists his "she/her" pronouns in his email signature, it's not hurting me directly.
I don't have a problem with Dave or Bob asking me to call him Alice.
I do have a problem with Alice forcing my HR department to implement a training program that asks me to change my behaviors in order to cultivate a work environment conducive to the transition process.
I do have a problem being told my refusal to list my pronouns in my email signature is a micro-aggression.
I do have a problem being told it's my duty to show sensitivity, provide emotional support, and act in ways that affirm Alice's gender identity.
In conclusion, fuck Dave.
Yeah but when people try to use other pronouns and expect you to use them in return, it is hurting you. It's hurting you by further weakening truth. It weakens what we know to be reality.
If a grown man said he was a cat, would you oblige him and meow back?
It seems to me, that when people are insane, it serves them no benefit to oblige them in their madness. Because by doing so, it further entrenches them in their confused thought patterns. And likewise, by entering their world of insanity by playing along so to speak, it can gradually start to blur the lines of what society accepts as reality.
First it starts as putting your pronouns in an email signature...and then you have men in women's prisons.
Never said I'd call him Alice, and I thought my conclusion spelled out my thoughts on the matter, but you're exactly right.
Most assholes dont know they are assholes. Most stupid people dont know they are stupid. When you agree to play these stupid games with these stupid mentally ill assholes, well, my opinion is you are a stupid asshole. Just repeating what a fren told me, and yes Im an asshole. Differance... I know it.
You should not live in their reality.
I refuse to.