When I was growing up I got spanked by my parents and whenever it happened I almost always did something to deserve it and I knew it. My cousins got the same, and my siblings.
My grandma is Indian from Trinidad and Tobago, she had the scarriest punishment and you knew to listen to grandma and behave:
- normally she'd give you a light knock on the crown of the head, it was like the worse ever because nothing is injured and she hardly touched you and it hurt so bad
- "The heat for the seat" was a large wooden decorative spoon the size of a plate, she broke it on my cousin when he wouldn't stop beating me up
We laugh about it now, he knew he deserved it and it was funny in hindsight that it broke after correcting 2 generations of familly members.
Growing up I could always tell the kids that were never spanked from the ones that were. The kids who were never spanked all had these traits:
- complete lack of fear of authority
- complete disrespect for adult
- bullying of others, including crybullying
- lack of respect for the law
- propensity to cheat
- no respect for other people property
- a willigness to commit petty theft for fun
I think that the modern ideals are wrong. I believe in the old wisdom of our forefathers.
Grandma was right to hit us.
Schoolteachers used to hand out beatings when I was a kid, although they are not allowed ot do it any more. Problem was they hit children in the most convenient place which for a typical-sized adult is head-height for a child. Young children have thin skulls and there were a few "accidents" which forced them to stop.
If you like spankings then maybe you would like Indonesia. The largest Muslim population in the world and they regularly have public whippings.
Spanking is not physical abuse. I was very rarely spanked by my parents, but the nuns in my school were actually physically abusive. Yard sticks, thrown books, rulers, actual paddles. That was abuse, and public humiliation. My parents were not abusive.
It's about your personal ability to project your will onto others. This happens all throughout your life and is not just about controlling children. If physical violence is your first stop in any confrontation then you are in for a lot of trouble in life and I predict fights in bars for your future.
When I was a teen I was with a girl whose dad used to spank her, as in over the knee for a spanking session. She had somehow come to enjoy this and demanded I do it to her and she really got off on it.
Not sure what all that was about but I found it a little bit over the edge of creepy.
discipline != violence
beatings do though