I remember when my little girl was about 8 or 9 and we were in the grocery store. A Girl I worked with was in the checkout line in front of us. Anita (that is her or should I say HIS name is) was with her Mother. My daughter was confused and pulled my arm asking me, "Mommy is that a boy or a girl?" I could not answer as I knew Anita and her mother had heard. (Anita is a true female at birth). So I waited until we got outside to explain the best I could. Anita dressed like a man and looked like a man except she had 'boobs' long hair, and a woman's voice. She also dated or should I say was 'living' with a Ft.Campbell soldier who was also female. That was the most confused time I've ever had was explaining to my daughter what and who this person was.
Sometimes it pays to ignore people when talking to them. If they insist on being called by a pronoun, I would walk off and ignore what they said. This is not in my upbringing to ignore people, but neither are the pronouns they insist I use.
It’s been a difficult situation that’s shaken the department. I’m on the training cadre and an officer and always have to be especially careful since the general feeling is she’s working to do a big gotcha and sue us after she decides to be extra offended.
I work to use just last names as suggested by a few of the other officers. The walking on eggshells is damn hard and stupid.
I remember when my little girl was about 8 or 9 and we were in the grocery store. A Girl I worked with was in the checkout line in front of us. Anita (that is her or should I say HIS name is) was with her Mother. My daughter was confused and pulled my arm asking me, "Mommy is that a boy or a girl?" I could not answer as I knew Anita and her mother had heard. (Anita is a true female at birth). So I waited until we got outside to explain the best I could. Anita dressed like a man and looked like a man except she had 'boobs' long hair, and a woman's voice. She also dated or should I say was 'living' with a Ft.Campbell soldier who was also female. That was the most confused time I've ever had was explaining to my daughter what and who this person was.
We have one of these on the fire dept. it’s embarrassing that the recruitment team brought him on.
And his GF the they/them who reminds everyone of her pronouns every chance she gets.
Sometimes it pays to ignore people when talking to them. If they insist on being called by a pronoun, I would walk off and ignore what they said. This is not in my upbringing to ignore people, but neither are the pronouns they insist I use.
It’s been a difficult situation that’s shaken the department. I’m on the training cadre and an officer and always have to be especially careful since the general feeling is she’s working to do a big gotcha and sue us after she decides to be extra offended.
I work to use just last names as suggested by a few of the other officers. The walking on eggshells is damn hard and stupid.
Thanks for the advice.
What can she do, sue you for ignoring her?