Bless you for having a relationship with your cousin that allows you to have this very personal conversation.
I was a tomboy too. I was the first girl born into my family for 64 years. I was surrounded by males and to this day find it easier to understand men then women. In a time when we girls wore dresses every day, my mom sewed pockets into my skirts. I hated my period, hated that I had to carry a purse and completely dismissed any boy that payed any sort of sexual interest in me.
Until I was about 15, maybe 16?
I would try to get your cousin to delay any movement toward transitioning to male until her hormones catch up. I'm 61 now and I discovered during my maturation is that I had the best of both worlds. Two marriages and three kids later, I can honestly say I was lucky to be born when I was. Not only could I be the tomboy I always was but I found I was also given a unique vision of what a woman could be. Please help her hang on during the next couple of years while she discovers the good parts of being a woman.
Bless you and your cousin
Well said. I am also 61 and I didn't fit the mold of a CA girl back then; not a blonde and I am short. Oh, I am was a tomboy too. Actually, back then, we were just kids (until menses came, then, we were "little ladies"). There isn't anything wrong with either sex being great at sports, chess, math, cooking, sewing etc. It doesn't make you gay if you are a male and love vacuuming, or if you are a female and love mowing the lawn. It makes you a well rounded person having lots of skills.
((Big hugs to your cousin. Let her know this tomboy when she got older, started to like and even love some "girly" things that she disliked with a passion as a young teen. (The color pink, now love it for example.)
Bless you for having a relationship with your cousin that allows you to have this very personal conversation. I was a tomboy too. I was the first girl born into my family for 64 years. I was surrounded by males and to this day find it easier to understand men then women. In a time when we girls wore dresses every day, my mom sewed pockets into my skirts. I hated my period, hated that I had to carry a purse and completely dismissed any boy that payed any sort of sexual interest in me. Until I was about 15, maybe 16? I would try to get your cousin to delay any movement toward transitioning to male until her hormones catch up. I'm 61 now and I discovered during my maturation is that I had the best of both worlds. Two marriages and three kids later, I can honestly say I was lucky to be born when I was. Not only could I be the tomboy I always was but I found I was also given a unique vision of what a woman could be. Please help her hang on during the next couple of years while she discovers the good parts of being a woman. Bless you and your cousin
Well said. I am also 61 and I didn't fit the mold of a CA girl back then; not a blonde and I am short. Oh, I am was a tomboy too. Actually, back then, we were just kids (until menses came, then, we were "little ladies"). There isn't anything wrong with either sex being great at sports, chess, math, cooking, sewing etc. It doesn't make you gay if you are a male and love vacuuming, or if you are a female and love mowing the lawn. It makes you a well rounded person having lots of skills. ((Big hugs to your cousin. Let her know this tomboy when she got older, started to like and even love some "girly" things that she disliked with a passion as a young teen. (The color pink, now love it for example.)