As many others women here stated… I was also a tomboy with those same feelings at that age. Grew out of it.
Tell her that girls have ways of dealing with sexualization, teach her those ways. Beg her not to do any hormones until she’s at least 25, make sure she knows the effects are IRREVERSABLE… facial hair, male pattern hair loss, (big deterrent), coarse skin and body hair, aggression. Testosterone causes heightened sexual desire and many FTM trans people are very surprised by all of this. There are many articles you can share with her about how MTF surgery doesn’t work, is painful, has long lasting medical complications. This info is out there, and it might be helpful for you to make sure she reads it, if nothing else.
Affirm how awesome she is, just the way she is. Whatever attention she is getting by “coming out as trans” right now, will quickly pass, and she will still be dealing with teen age relationships, puberty, and the heightened emotions of that age. I worked with a girl who started using male hormones at 15…fantasized about becoming a man. Learned she can pass for a man now, but is not and never will be a man. Is regretting it 10 years later. Unable to have normal relationships, because most normal people don’t want to get involved with someone who is trans.
As many others women here stated… I was also a tomboy with those same feelings at that age. Grew out of it.
Tell her that girls have ways of dealing with sexualization, teach her those ways. Beg her not to do any hormones until she’s at least 25, make sure she knows the effects are IRREVERSABLE… facial hair, male pattern hair loss, (big deterrent), coarse skin and body hair, aggression. Testosterone causes heightened sexual desire and many FTM trans people are very surprised by all of this. There are many articles you can share with her about how MTF surgery doesn’t work, is painful, has long lasting medical complications. This info is out there, and it might be helpful for you to make sure she reads it, if nothing else. Affirm how awesome she is, just the way she is. Whatever attention she is getting by “coming out as trans” right now, will quickly pass, and she will still be dealing with teen age relationships, puberty, and the heightened emotions of that age. I worked with a girl who started using male hormones at 15…fantasized about becoming a man. Learned she can pass for a man now, but is not and never will be a man. Is regretting it 10 years later. Unable to have normal relationships, because most normal people don’t want to get involved with someone who is trans.