Had to read this a few times to get my head right this morning... Stay strong and hold the line frens🐸
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Some personalities thrive on chaos. Sometimes you can support the healing of loved ones better from afar rather then in the trenches with them. Really just ends up making you crazy too.
So odd you should choose the word chaos. I say all the time I just can't do the chaos anymore. I do think from a distance is going to be the game plan for the foreseeable future. It has been six months of living separately and I am sad sometimes but more at peace than I have been in years.
It is sad and hard but now you get to see who you are. When we are busy trying to save another we get lost in the shuffle. I really think that's where much of the sadness comes from. Look inside and ask how you can now support yourself. Once you get that down you can support others...from your base of strength and joy not out of their insanity.
Thanks for your comments they really resonate. It hasn't always been fabulous to say the least, but being on my own for a little while really does give you time to reflect. And makes me much less angry with him which is helpful for both of us I think. We shall see.
That was me, so tired of living in fear from his drunk rages. I had to leave, but there was little love left. In hindsight best decision I made, even after the financial crisis it put me in. He fell and broke his leg when drunk, then broke it again! Dodged a bullet for sure
Same here Dolly. Fourty years of constant chaos. I decided I'd had enough a couple of months before he was diagnosed with stage 4 liver cancer. I walked out of the hospital and told God that the divorce was off the table. That I would see him through to wellness or death which ever came and that I would do it with glad heart. Death came 4 months later. I've never been so much at peace and very grateful for it. So glad that you have finally gained peace for yourself. Sometimes we have to walk away or risk going down the drain with them.