she's one of those that hates being wrong, even if it kills her...deep down she may know, she'd just rather keep going to doctors and specialists in an attempt to prove ME wrong...I've made my peace with her, really all I can do now..gotta let her be stubborn straight to the grave...
God bless you...truly. I empathize with you 100%. I've had that same kind of mother, who's been out of control since my father passed in 1986. My mom is in her early 90s now...has estranged all three of us kids at one time or another, as well as all of the grandkids (among whom she, too, has played favorites).
She's the only surviving sibling out of her own nine brothers/sisters. With exception of a couple neighbors, she's gotten to a place where (like or not) she's bitched about wanting to be for decades...to be completely alone. I've been permanently estranged from, and haven't spoken to, her in well over a decade in a last-ditch effort to keep her toxicity away from my own wife and two now-grown sons.
I have days where I have guilt...I've had dozens of friends, acquaintances, co-workers who look at me like I'm a demon for treating my mother this way when I attempt to explain the situation. I also remember what the Bible says about taking care of the widows and orphaned...but then I hear stories from my oldest sister (who, despite being heaped with abuse, occasionally helps her) and how my mother hasn't changed (and has, in fact, gotten worse), defying and offending the few friends and doctors who stay in touch with her, remaining abusive and stubborn...and I just can't feel bad about it.
Well, you can tell her you've been listening to the best DOCTORS...
...and you're surely smart enough to repeat stuff correctly, right?
She should know
she's one of those that hates being wrong, even if it kills her...deep down she may know, she'd just rather keep going to doctors and specialists in an attempt to prove ME wrong...I've made my peace with her, really all I can do now..gotta let her be stubborn straight to the grave...
Luke 12 :51
Luke 12 :52
Luke 12 :53
exactly that. My mom has not been a mom at all, and has favorites (kids, grandkids)...so I pray for her, but I can't help her.
God bless you...truly. I empathize with you 100%. I've had that same kind of mother, who's been out of control since my father passed in 1986. My mom is in her early 90s now...has estranged all three of us kids at one time or another, as well as all of the grandkids (among whom she, too, has played favorites).
She's the only surviving sibling out of her own nine brothers/sisters. With exception of a couple neighbors, she's gotten to a place where (like or not) she's bitched about wanting to be for decades...to be completely alone. I've been permanently estranged from, and haven't spoken to, her in well over a decade in a last-ditch effort to keep her toxicity away from my own wife and two now-grown sons.
I have days where I have guilt...I've had dozens of friends, acquaintances, co-workers who look at me like I'm a demon for treating my mother this way when I attempt to explain the situation. I also remember what the Bible says about taking care of the widows and orphaned...but then I hear stories from my oldest sister (who, despite being heaped with abuse, occasionally helps her) and how my mother hasn't changed (and has, in fact, gotten worse), defying and offending the few friends and doctors who stay in touch with her, remaining abusive and stubborn...and I just can't feel bad about it.
So again -- God bless you.