Tldr: Shes stressed about her job, relationship, money, house, and mental health
Help for Coworker?
My coworker, is going through a lot in a bad relationship.
Her boyfriend is unfaithful, engaging in virtual cheating and gaslighting her. They jointly own a house, but she pays rent, and her finances are strained due to a low-paying, stressful job with an abusive boss.
This situation is taking a toll on her mental health, causing frequent crying and illness. She is actively searching for better job opportunities to improve her circumstances and needs prayers and help for success in her job applications.
She seeks the courage to leave her abusive boyfriend, who threatens to leave her homeless if she does so.
He pays for the car, gave her leeway about rent, and is decent when other women don't come up.
Any advice on what to do for her safety, strength, and the courage to make positive changes in her life?
Before, she didn't want to leave because she said she wanted to build a life with him, but after she saw the messages and things he was paying for, she talked with me a bit to figure out what to do.
She's disappointed about the relationship and doesn't want to leave her dog, i think hes in both their names, but the arguing about the women is taking a toll.
She's almost 30.
I gave her some places to check out, a women's shelter etc. online resources and told her to continue saving money and keep job-hunting.
I can't do much since I'm in school and the apt I'm in is shared with 5 other people.
Do you and her work at a place with a manager or the likes? Sometimes the help could be right in front of her. Maybe you both sit down with your place of business and talk about options. And just start with, she needs help. There are great people out there. We just have to learn to ask for help from those we see from day to day. For myself pride gets in the way. But hopefully, if I require assistance, I will humble myself enough to ask. It’s very difficult I know.
Maybe you and her could get a place? Maybe with one more roommate as well? To help with finances.
I hope all goes well for her. I know in my heart if she really gives this to the Lord, her needed strength and best advice will arrive. God bless both of y’all.
Our boas makes it known that she doesn't like my coworker and has encouraged her to almost quit numerous times.