Tldr: Shes stressed about her job, relationship, money, house, and mental health
Help for Coworker?
My coworker, is going through a lot in a bad relationship.
Her boyfriend is unfaithful, engaging in virtual cheating and gaslighting her. They jointly own a house, but she pays rent, and her finances are strained due to a low-paying, stressful job with an abusive boss.
This situation is taking a toll on her mental health, causing frequent crying and illness. She is actively searching for better job opportunities to improve her circumstances and needs prayers and help for success in her job applications.
She seeks the courage to leave her abusive boyfriend, who threatens to leave her homeless if she does so.
He pays for the car, gave her leeway about rent, and is decent when other women don't come up.
Any advice on what to do for her safety, strength, and the courage to make positive changes in her life?
Before, she didn't want to leave because she said she wanted to build a life with him, but after she saw the messages and things he was paying for, she talked with me a bit to figure out what to do.
She's disappointed about the relationship and doesn't want to leave her dog, i think hes in both their names, but the arguing about the women is taking a toll.
She's almost 30.
I gave her some places to check out, a women's shelter etc. online resources and told her to continue saving money and keep job-hunting.
I can't do much since I'm in school and the apt I'm in is shared with 5 other people.
Been there, done that except for the money part. I know she is hurting, but now is the time to get ANGRY. Now is the time to tell yourself that 'this ain't gonna beat me.' She may have to take a loss with the car, the house and perhaps her much loved dog, but God will take care of her. Psalms 147:3 says 'He heals the broken-hearted and bandages their wounds.' and Psalms 34:18 says, 'The Lord is close to the broken-hearted and delivers those whose spirit has been crushed.'
Our Heavenly Father, I pray today for a young woman who is walking down a path that I myself have been down. I pray for her heart to be mended, her crying to cease, and joy to fill her soul once more. Give her the strength to pick herself up and shake off the bindings in her life that hold her there. Let her know that you are with her and that she will not fail. Make her much stronger and give her more financial support than she can imagine. And please Lord, place the man you wish her to have in her path and let her know he is the chosen one from you. I thank and praise you Lord for all that you have done and given as I ask this in the name of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Amen.