Let me put this a different way. You've probably had times in your life when you were really horny - especially if you've been pregnant.
This is the state men are in every waking hour from about 13 until the day they die. Sure, we learn to deal with it better with age, and yes, eventually our bodies aren't going to be able to cooperate, but the overwhelming drive is there and it's there all the time.
Likewise men experience times when they are overwhelmed with emotion or conflicting emotions to the point it clouds their judgement, or need positive validation from their partner (or others). But, in my experience, it happens about as often as women are really horny - it isn't the subtext of our lives the way it is with women.
These respective drivers have huge implications on what we do or don't do, how we feel about ourselves, and how we relate to our spouses/partners and those around us. They often get in the way of more cerebral or practical concerns for better or worse. It's just the way we're wired and yes, with time, both sexes can learn to manage them better.
I'll never truly know what being a woman is like, but I can extrapolate from those times I've been on emotional roller-coasters and try to empathize with and support my wife when she needs it without judging her or invalidating her even if I think she's being ridiculous. But the difference here is women can and do get emotional support from others besides their husband, and sometimes that's actually better for them. And a lot of time, despite their best intentions, men just don't really understand what their wife is going through because we can't really know.
I'm just saying maybe women should try to maybe do the same for men, especially in a marriage where men essentially, contractually, and morally have no other options than their wife to satisfy their needs.
Let me put this a different way. You've probably had times in your life when you were really horny - especially if you've been pregnant.
This is the state men are in every waking hour from about 13 until the day they die. Sure, we learn to deal with it better with age, and yes, eventually our bodies aren't going to be able to cooperate, but the overwhelming drive is there and it's there all the time.
Likewise men experience times when they are overwhelmed with emotion or conflicting emotions to the point it clouds their judgement, or need positive validation from their partner (or others). But, in my experience, it happens about as often as women are really horny - it isn't the subtext of our lives the way it is with women.
These respective drivers have huge implications on what we do or don't do, how we feel about ourselves, and how we relate to our spouses/partners and those around us. They often get in the way of more cerebral or practical concerns for better or worse. It's just the way we're wired and yes, with time, both sexes can learn to manage them better.
I'll never truly know what being a woman is like, but I can extrapolate from those times I've been on emotional roller-coasters and try to empathize with and support my wife when she needs it without judging her or invalidating her even if I think she's being ridiculous. But the difference here is women can and do get emotional support from others besides their husband, and sometimes that's actually better for them. And a lot of time, despite their best intentions, men just don't really understand what their wife is going through because we can't really know.
I'm just saying maybe women should try to maybe do the same for men, especially in a marriage where men essentially, contractually, and morally have no other options than their wife to satisfy their needs.