We are expecting our 1st grandchild in October. I was just informed by my husband that our daughter called him in tears 6 weeks ago because her doctor is insisting that all members of the family that will be around the child must get a flu shot. Our daughter unfortunately is a liberal and will follow that rule but she also knows how I feel about vaccines. My husband has known about this for 6 weeks but has been afraid to mention it to me because he knew I was not going to like it. This has put me in a horrible position. My husband even said that if I wanted to lie to her and tell her I got the shot, he would go along with it. I told him absolutely not! I am not going to lie. I promised my husband that I would do it but not without doing some investigation first. I don’t even know how to start investigation on this. Do any of you know if there is a way to figure out if there are different flu shots out there and how to know which pharma company is behind them? Any advice would be much appreciated.
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We also did not vax our children (we have seven) after the first round or so with our first child. Even back in the 90s as a young, clueless mom, I just felt like it was too much and harmful (and that gut feeling sent me down a rabbit hole of research.) I don't regret it a bit.
There was a push a while back among young people- pre covid of course, because I believe this was all planned in advance- to ridicule anti vaxxers as stupid and irresponsible, and quite a few of my kids fell for it and resented me and their dad for not getting them vaxxed. These kids grew up healthy as horses with very few illnesses, of course. We did sit down with each one of them when they were teens and told them why didn't vax them and that when they were grown they could choose to get vaxxed if they wanted (but to please research first.) Then covid happened and most of them decided we were pretty ignorant and a few got the shot (thankfully no bad health effects yet.) I am sure a few of them will vax their children if something doesn't change (no grandchildren yet.)
I've given up trying to talk to them. Covid, finances (we had had a very successful family business pre election steal and employed all of our kids- this economy forced us to downsize and we can no longer offer all the good things to our kids that we used to, therefore they're not happy with us) and the election bs has driven a wedge between us and most of our kids. I hope that when everything is said and done we can restore our relationships. We've stood our ground and we don't force our beliefs on our kids but they feel fine forcing theirs on us, lol.
It hurts me to see other families like OP's dealing with the same issues. God help us all- this feels like a nightmare.
I commend you for staying true to your convictions and beliefs...I had 5 kids in the 80's so I am a bit ahead of you but the persecution for the ant-vaxxer's was pretty much the same...I sacrificed a lot to live the lifestyle that I thought was best for my family and it does break my heart...
The culprit in our family is my two sons who married a nurse and a nurse practitioner...they evidently have the final say about these things...my girls are on the same page with me and my beliefs. I am just too old to feel I have to control everyone and everything and there is freedom in just giving it all to God and letting Him deal with it...which is where I am at...
I certainly feel your pain and understand your situation completely...the only positive for me is that our family is still all tight knit and even though we disagree that hasn't alienated us from our kids or grandkids...I pray for you and your family...life is often difficult...but it is NEVER wrong to do right....God bless you anon...loving mom...
I’m so sorry you went through this ,, u have a great attitude ! The part about the business is tough , kids unhappy thst you can’t lavish them no matter what-degree thst is ,,, entitlements, boy does thst hit home , I didn’t vax youngest , she was always so proud and happy , my oldest daughter has autism , however , now I’m the crazy bad guy ,, she got the jab ! It’s tough !