Tell her the world seeks to please everyone, because no one knows who they really are deep down, and as a result they seek approval outside. But this mentality causes much harm because no one really truly loves themselves because they seek to be included. At the same time it’s all fake inclusion because if don’t know yourself and love yourself, you cant possibly love others. Healing starts internally and expands outwardly. When people learn who they are on the inside, despite their flaws, they begin a beautiful process of accepting others regardless of their flaws. As the Bible says, love the sinner not the sin.