College doesn't guarantee financial success. In fact it hinders it for most people, putting them in dept at the start of their lives, setting them back, not giving them a good education, no job placement, most graduate with a bullshit degree that gives them nothing and they don't know what to do with their lives, end up getting a low paying job they could have gotten 4+ years earlier when they were fresh out of high school.
And being in a band has nothing to do with her future ability to have a successful career. Music is a form of art and expression, a hobby, and only a profession for a small percentage of people who play. It's nonsense to even make these two things compete with one another, as if they have anything to do with each other.
You always identify a child's passion, what they gravitate towards, and you encourage it, and nurture it, because it helps them build character and confidence in themselves. You don't avoid it because it's not on some list of jobs that pay bills. These things aren't jobs for most people, they are passions, something we need to have fulfillment in life. They are for the soul. You said she's having emotional issues, her passion for music may help her deal with it. If she's dealing with anger she will gravitate towards music that she relates to. Once she starts to heal she will expand into other forms of music, and she will decide how far she wants to take it. Until then, the ability to play a musical instrument is something special and should be encouraged. It's at least a place to start with her. If she were to be homeschooled, putting her in music right away would help her with her transition because it would feed that part of her soul for her while she adapts to the change and heals from the brainwashing she was subjected to her whole life.
And if they want to see her financially stable, encouraging her to go to trade school would be best. It's quick, it's a specific education with job placement, there is a current shortage of these jobs, and you'd be shocked how well they pay. The mansion at the end of my neighborhood is owned by a plumber.
How far away is she? Can she still bring it? Can you change her mind? My worry is that this is the kind of thing that encourages rebellion, and instills more distrust in parents/family. The exact thing that needs to be reversed asap.
Also you said you basically live like the Amish? Are you on land? Connecting with nature is wonderful therapy too. If you have any farm animals I'd definitely put her on farm chores right away. Caring for animals can be wonderful for people with emotional issues, depending on the person.
College doesn't guarantee financial success. In fact it hinders it for most people, putting them in dept at the start of their lives, setting them back, not giving them a good education, no job placement, most graduate with a bullshit degree that gives them nothing and they don't know what to do with their lives, end up getting a low paying job they could have gotten 4+ years earlier when they were fresh out of high school.
And being in a band has nothing to do with her future ability to have a successful career. Music is a form of art and expression, a hobby, and only a profession for a small percentage of people who play. It's nonsense to even make these two things compete with one another, as if they have anything to do with each other.
You always identify a child's passion, what they gravitate towards, and you encourage it, and nurture it, because it helps them build character and confidence in themselves. You don't avoid it because it's not on some list of jobs that pay bills. These things aren't jobs for most people, they are passions, something we need to have fulfillment in life. They are for the soul. You said she's having emotional issues, her passion for music may help her deal with it. If she's dealing with anger she will gravitate towards music that she relates to. Once she starts to heal she will expand into other forms of music, and she will decide how far she wants to take it. Until then, the ability to play a musical instrument is something special and should be encouraged. It's at least a place to start with her. If she were to be homeschooled, putting her in music right away would help her with her transition because it would feed that part of her soul for her while she adapts to the change and heals from the brainwashing she was subjected to her whole life.
And if they want to see her financially stable, encouraging her to go to trade school would be best. It's quick, it's a specific education with job placement, there is a current shortage of these jobs, and you'd be shocked how well they pay. The mansion at the end of my neighborhood is owned by a plumber.
How far away is she? Can she still bring it? Can you change her mind? My worry is that this is the kind of thing that encourages rebellion, and instills more distrust in parents/family. The exact thing that needs to be reversed asap.
Also you said you basically live like the Amish? Are you on land? Connecting with nature is wonderful therapy too. If you have any farm animals I'd definitely put her on farm chores right away. Caring for animals can be wonderful for people with emotional issues, depending on the person.