It’s becoming increasingly hard for myself and my family to survive in this economy. Myself and my family are teetering in the edge. I hope there’s some relief soon. I lost my job back in 2021 and went I to business for myself. 5 years ago under Trump’s economy I think I could survive and grow without a problem. Now… a trip to the grocery store costs $500 and running up cards left and right because our two incomes combined still isn’t enough. That doesn’t even touch on all the other things like our healthcare going up etc. 3 kids… I am praying people will make their moves soon to take this thing back and get it under control. I don’t know how much time I have left. I wish there was a relief opportunity for those of us who know and trust the plan to get by until it’s fixed. LoL
It’s becoming next to impossible for myself and my family to survive.
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It pains me to hear about people like you paying for cars, college, weddings, etc for your children. It seems like a great thing to do, but it is a disservice to your children. This is and was a big part of the illusion of the "American Dream", when it absolutely has nothing to do with the American Dream (which is all about opportunity for those who are willing to go get it). We have been fooled into thinking that giving away opportunity leads to anything other than pain and suffering for all involved parties. I pray that your are able to weather the storm and continue to put away enough for the winter of your lives. I hope you keep in mind the lack of understanding that your children have shown you in this hardship and steer any inheritance to any of your children that have shown you compassion. If it is none of them, then perhaps leave it to grandchildren or simply someone in your life that you deem worthy. You don't owe your children anything at this point, they took their inheritance when you paid for vehicles, college and weddings.
My husband and I both grew up and did what we did with our lives with literally zero support from our own families. We pulled ourselves up out of grinding poverty with our business, and when I say we were super poor, I mean it. Our business was 100% given to us by God and He's helped us so much. So I have faith that things will get better as far as that goes. He hasn't brought us this far to fail now.
We did the things we did for our kids- misguided or not- with the best of intentions and to hopefully keep them from struggling as hard as we did. I felt like God had been so generous with us, so we could- in turn- be generous with our kids. And as a woman who grew up without support of any kind from family, it was a true joy for me to be able to do for my own kids. I don't know if that makes any sense or not. But you can bet 1000% that our pocketbooks are closed now, and will stay closed for the very reasons you mention above. I also have faith that God can turn these grown kids' attitudes around just like He can turn our business around, though. I'm currently working on ensuring that I don't hang onto bitterness over how everything has turned out, and that's a really tough thing.
I completely understand what you are saying. I only feel the way I do because I did exactly as you did. I see how much harder I made it made it for the kids. They aren't self sufficient and are selfish and intolerant. One of the girls lives in New York City and is a complete liberal. The other hasn't been heard from in five years. I honestly have no idea how she is doing. I felt great because I grew up in a trailer on the desert in west Texas with a sister being raised by a single mom working three jobs. I thought I was being kind and generous and it honestly felt great.
I will pray for you and your family. And I am so sorry you're going through this, because this is such a painful thing to deal with. Please don't beat yourself up over it- because I think it's not just doing for your kids that produces this kind of division- it does play a part but I know so many families who have done more for their kids and don't see the same issues, and a few who have done far less and are also dealing with it. I think it's just that a lot of younger people these days feel entitled for whatever reason.
I have a friend that has two older sisters. All three were from a good family that were all sent to private school from K-12. All 3 went to college, but only he paid his entire education. It took him 8 years of full time work and school to get his engineering degree. They are all in their 40's now, but both sisters are living with their parents. Only one of the sisters finished college and she doesn't even work. She has an autistic son and has mental problems herself. It is crazy how that all worked out. He has three kids himself, buy they are all still young. He has a great family that are doing great, but his sisters are just lost. He is also the only one that is conservative. It seems to be related to him deciding to do it all for himself after he grew up. It is just my limited experience that I go from. I had a much humbler upbringing, we were very poor with a single mom. I think I over compensated by trying to give every advantage and over indulged. Perhaps when they are older and have children of their own, things may change, but the damage is done.