Darlin, don't worry about distressing me. If I could, I would hug you and your wife....and be aware that many marriages fail after losing a child because we grieve differently. I became active in Compassionate friends, but my husband couldn't face that. Just be aware and seek help. You are facing one of the hardest challenges God asks anyone to face. Ask for help. You can't do this one alone. God bless you, fren.