What do you do when some family and friends say "all you say / think are negative about the world"
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I get this a lot. "You are so negative about everything, your outlook, worldview, nobody will want to be friends with you"
Sometimes I get "all the people you praise, most people view negatively, and the people you praise like Trump most people frown upon"
I stand my ground insisting I tell the truth at any cost, but in some ways, it hurts because it does feel isolating and alone. I get that being alone is one of the costs of telling the truth in this world. How do ya'll handle this?
Absolutely it bothers me. I have been to four funerals in the last year. Only one if them did I get to plead with a dear friend, begging them to not get vaccinated. Fell on deaf ears. It will always bother me, but I spoke up, gently and often. I can live with that because I have to. I often wonder if I could have gotten through more if she hadn't heard my crazy stories about the rest of it all. If I had just picked that one battle, maybe it would have carried more weight.
Speaking up is important, but it doesn't take a trained psychologist to see when people close up and are being pushed away. At that point the only thing you gain is the satisfaction of speaking your mind. Keep your friends close. Where you can answer questions as they arise. Why push them away? Your influence is lost forever.
But again, in my case, I wasn't the one pushing people away or rejecting them for political opinions or other views. It is the opposite. It's them rejecting me because of MY opinions and beliefs.
That's what's super unfair. And I haven't told a single lie to them.
It's a matter if persistence. You seem to have trouble seeing it, but some people don't want to hear it. They will see. It's not worth pushing away friends and family. Ideally you will be there when they are forced to see to help them along with the process. You and I both know that it is not an easy thing to digest. It will be even less so when they are force fed the reality by the world around them. Love is the only thing real, don't regret pushing it out of your life. Your friends don't have to see through your eyes to be good friends.