When you have time, go ahead and read the rest of what I wrote. You must understand that there is a trillion dollar industry dealing with marital dissolution and child custody. You want to stay out of the government snare.
"If she can't pay her own rent, does that play into my side of things? She can't afford to be a mother."
It could depending on the terms and conditions of your marital settlement agreement. Who presided over the MSA?
If it was a judge/magistrate, I'm questioning how the MSA was set up. Again, it depends on the terms and conditions. If there is no clause for remedying disagreements, then ostensibly she can sue for ameliorating the agreement. An unworkable agreement is no agreement. Your second question is that the family courts, through legal precedent, view the male, not her, as the financial obligator to raise those children. Typically, the mother is the one that has sole physical custody. It's something like 90% of the time.
Since you have a joint physical custody, that'a a very good situation. However, you need to protect this at all costs. It sounds like she is trying to change that. I'll tell you this. With women, there are many influences (mom, sister, friends, etc.) that will 'advise' her to take you to court. One of the pathways is through unsolvable disagreements. It's sounds like she might be on this path. The inside skinny on family attorneys is that their profits are far greater from acrimonious marital relationships than for easily resolvable cases. The more fighting, the more they profit. This goes on long after the dissolution papers have been drafted and issued until the kids are well in their teens. You have a really good deal and don't want any surprise motions to the court to happen. You said the following:
"I did pay $1500 to her a month after the divorce for one year, but that was direct payments via bank transfers(so that I had a record of it). I only did that because I knew she was used to a certain life style and would blow it all. Hence her asking her dad for rent money."
Could this be the issue at hand? She doesn't have money for the rent? Does her parents believe you should help her out financially? May be through a mutual friend you should ask her about it. The question is, What can you do to resolve the issues she has?
The most important thing you must do is to mitigate the fighting. You want to have a good relationship for your sake and your children.
When you have time, go ahead and read the rest of what I wrote. You must understand that there is a trillion dollar industry dealing with marital dissolution and child custody. You want to stay out of the government snare.
"If she can't pay her own rent, does that play into my side of things? She can't afford to be a mother."
It could depending on the terms and conditions of your marital settlement agreement. Who presided over the MSA?
If it was a judge/magistrate, I'm questioning how the MSA was set up. Again, it depends on the terms and conditions. If there is no clause for remedying disagreements, then ostensibly she can sue for ameliorating the agreement. An unworkable agreement is no agreement. Your second question is that the family courts, through legal precedent, view the male, not her, as the financial obligator to raise those children. Typically, the mother is the one that has sole physical custody. It's something like 90% of the time.
Since you have a joint physical custody, that'a a very good situation. However, you need to protect this at all costs. It sounds like she is trying to change that. I'll tell you this. With women, there are many influences (mom, sister, friends, etc.) that will 'advise' her to take you to court. One of the pathways is through unsolvable disagreements. It's sounds like she might be on this path. The inside skinny on family attorneys is that their profits are far greater from acrimonious marital relationships than for easily resolvable cases. The more fighting, the more they profit. This goes on long after the dissolution papers have been drafted and issued until the kids are well in their teens. You have a really good deal and don't want any surprise motions to the court to happen. You said the following:
"I did pay $1500 to her a month after the divorce for one year, but that was direct payments via bank transfers(so that I had a record of it). I only did that because I knew she was used to a certain life style and would blow it all. Hence her asking her dad for rent money."
Could this be the issue at hand? She doesn't have money for the rent? Does her parents believe you should help her out financially? May be through a mutual friend you should ask her about it. The question is, What can you do to resolve the issues she has?
The most important thing you must do is to mitigate the fighting. You want to have a good relationship for your sake and your children.