Please do not be offended by my tone, I am just a very direct person. I care about you and that is why I am telling you the truth.
We could join but couldn't participate
Yeah you cant take the Eucharist but you aren't doing that now either, so whats the problem?
You can join and fulfill your obligation to attend mass on Sunday. The obligation is to attend mass and not have sex outside of marriage. You are not currently married to the man you live with according to Catholic law. You know this, dear.
You are going to go to hell for eternity for rejecting the truth. The truth is you are committing adultery and refusing to join the Church because its inconvenient for you. You do not have to shell out a dime to join and stop sinning and I also bet there are resources to help pay for an annulment.
Join the Church
Stop having sex with the man you are committing adultery with
Work on getting that annulment (doesn't mean it will be approved but I assume you know the process)
or don't get the annulment and live chaste the rest of your years like Mary and Joseph did
Then after all of that, you can consume the bread of life, the Eucharist
“if anyone eats this bread, he will live forever” (v.51a)
“unless you eat the flesh of the Son of man and drink his blood” (v.53)
“he who eats my flesh and drinks my blood abides in me” (v.56)
“he who eats me will live because of me” (v.57)
“he who eats this bread [his flesh] will live forever” (v.58)
Please please please reconsider. We are talking about eternity here. Your heavenly Father loves you and wants to make a future for you. As daunting as it first sounds, I promise you IT IS WORTH IT. God will always make a way for you to do the right and just thing.
Please visit a FSSP and talk with a priest there. No way would it cost $3k.
It might be a few hundred bucks for FEES for processing and 1. I'd pay it for you 2. IT IS WORTH EVERY CENT to be in good standing with the Church and therefore the Father, Son and Holy Ghost.
Come to think of it, I think you and I have chatted before on here about this. Please keep in touch and I do really hope I haven't offended you with my direct tone. I just don't want to beat around the bush with such a heavy topic, the consequences are huge.
My in-laws are currently in the same situation you are in. It breaks my heart that they are letting an annulment stand in the way of heaven. We have told them so many times it is worth the price of abstaining from sex for a time. My husband and I had to do it to enter into the Church because we were not sacramentally married when trying to join. We lived chaste until we were married in the Church. I don't want sex outside of marriage to keep me out of heaven. It isn't worth it. Please know you are not alone in this problem and there is a way out. I promise it won't be $3k. Talk with an FSSP priest.
Please do not be offended by my tone, I am just a very direct person. I care about you and that is why I am telling you the truth.
Yeah you cant take the Eucharist but you aren't doing that now either, so whats the problem?
You can join and fulfill your obligation to attend mass on Sunday. The obligation is to attend mass and not have sex outside of marriage. You are not currently married to the man you live with according to Catholic law. You know this, dear.
You are going to go to hell for eternity for rejecting the truth. The truth is you are committing adultery and refusing to join the Church because its inconvenient for you. You do not have to shell out a dime to join and stop sinning and I also bet there are resources to help pay for an annulment.
Join the Church
Stop having sex with the man you are committing adultery with
Work on getting that annulment (doesn't mean it will be approved but I assume you know the process)
or don't get the annulment and live chaste the rest of your years like Mary and Joseph did
Then after all of that, you can consume the bread of life, the Eucharist
Please please please reconsider. We are talking about eternity here. Your heavenly Father loves you and wants to make a future for you. As daunting as it first sounds, I promise you IT IS WORTH IT. God will always make a way for you to do the right and just thing.
Also 3000 seems excessive.
https://camdendiocese.org/tribunal/how-much-does-an-annulment-cost/#:~:text=One%20does%20not%20pay%20for%20an%20annulment.&text=These%20non%2Drefundable%20fees%20are,and%20for%20the%20Petitioner's%20benefit.
Please visit a FSSP and talk with a priest there. No way would it cost $3k.
It might be a few hundred bucks for FEES for processing and 1. I'd pay it for you 2. IT IS WORTH EVERY CENT to be in good standing with the Church and therefore the Father, Son and Holy Ghost.
Come to think of it, I think you and I have chatted before on here about this. Please keep in touch and I do really hope I haven't offended you with my direct tone. I just don't want to beat around the bush with such a heavy topic, the consequences are huge.
My in-laws are currently in the same situation you are in. It breaks my heart that they are letting an annulment stand in the way of heaven. We have told them so many times it is worth the price of abstaining from sex for a time. My husband and I had to do it to enter into the Church because we were not sacramentally married when trying to join. We lived chaste until we were married in the Church. I don't want sex outside of marriage to keep me out of heaven. It isn't worth it. Please know you are not alone in this problem and there is a way out. I promise it won't be $3k. Talk with an FSSP priest.