Like most of us here, I have family and friends who are brainwashed and who will not wake up, and some who go so far as to ridicule my "conspiracy crap" .
It's the family that hurts. I have finally given myself permission to let go of the responsibility to save them by awakening them, and leaving that in God's hands. As a human and family member, I feel a little guilt, but I feel more empowered by the freedom to focus my time and energy on finding and bonding with like-minded people rather than wasting it on hopeless cases "because they're family" .
If my family comes to me and asks for help, of course I will help them. But I will not jeopardize my ability to protect and care for those who need me to seek that one lost sheep... that's Jesus' role, and if he works through me then so be it.
I will pray for them.
But I give myself permission to let go of the responsibility, guilt and related stress. And I encourage you to consider that if you have not done so. It's unique for each of us. Just know that it is okay.
You still have dialogue. Embrace the hope.
Keep the conversation light and helpful, on the things she’s into. I did this with gardening family too—ask questions, exchange recipes. Ask if she plans to can/ freeze-dry. Anything you have a shared interest in. Then send her helpful info occasionally, like this new herbicide called Grazon Next Herbicide. I had my whole Fam to convert to more organic gardening and do research once they heard of this. It makes a farmers’ pasture lush with no weeds. But the cows/horses who eat it, pass the chemical on in their manure, and when the farmer fertilizes his garden with it, the chemicals continue to kill EVERYTHING—except grass, in the soil, for up to 10 years. If you mulch your garden with Grazon hay, or Grazon manure—your garden soil becomes barren. (No need to mention conspiracy. This is a gardener’s nightmare—and will emphasize the need to be informed and research)
It doesn’t take long for (them) to see you and your digs as helpful. It encourages them to sniff around themselves. Keep the conversation light. Pray. God will open her heart.