R3: quarter life crisis- I do remember that time and it is hard. Part of the problem is she is not too far out of school which offers a lot of structure and there are paths and goals that are more or less defined but upon leaving school, it is not as clear.
Also, for many women, the skills for which they are rewarded for in school - straight As, being "a good girl" - are not necessarily the ones that lead to success in the work world. That is a big lesson, especially for the high achievers.
Hi Red Pill Boomer - I don't typically like to dish out thoughts on other people's lives, but since you've asked...
It sounds like your daughter may be having a quarter life crisis. Very common.
She had worked her whole life towards a goal, and then when she got it - what now?
More than anything, she came to realize that life alone in an apartment is not meaningful. Even if she had a "dream job."
The one thing she thought would fulfill her didn't. Now she's floating in aimlessness.
It's wonderful that she has your home to crash back into, but it's true that she does have to have an aim.
She must cast a vision for what her future could be. What future does she WANT to aim for that's bigger and better than her present, or her past?
And truly discovering what it is that she wants out of life.
It's not being in software.
Is it starting a family?
She simply needs to find herself. And there's likely a lot of pain - thus the endless scrolling in an effort to numb the pain.
She's got a lot of inner-work to do. But once she figures it out, her little brother can witness that and follow in her footsteps. <3
R3: quarter life crisis- I do remember that time and it is hard. Part of the problem is she is not too far out of school which offers a lot of structure and there are paths and goals that are more or less defined but upon leaving school, it is not as clear.
Also, for many women, the skills for which they are rewarded for in school - straight As, being "a good girl" - are not necessarily the ones that lead to success in the work world. That is a big lesson, especially for the high achievers.