Your exactly right. I train with trained men, 10th Dan, 6th Dan 4th Dan are my teachers. I'm overwhelmed by their speed and strength and I know darn well I can't beat them, but give me a untrained man, I can hold my own. Men think we are trying to compete with them, they are so wrong. We just want to be strong enough in our lives. On the deck I've had lower ranking men hit or block me hard like I was a man. Sure it hurts, but we hide it. I refuse to show weakness to them.