Welcome to General Chat - GAW Community Area
This General Chat area started off as a place for people to talk about things that are off topic, however it has quickly evolved into a community and has become an integral part of the GAW experience for many of us.
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What are your thoughts or opinions on family and friends coming to your funeral when they wouldn't be a part of your life when you were alive? I'm asking for simple curiosity. I've told my husband and daughter for years have a private funeral or memorial service. Cremate me and release my ashes my ashes in the ocean (or beach) & where we live, it's where I grew up. My husband and I have been on the fence about cremation because future generations wouldn't be able to find your grave. There's a website used by genealogist called Find A Grave. You can make a memorial profile of someone even if they aren't buried.
Another reason I'm asking is my mom's brother basically disappeared after my grandparents passed. No reason to come around if you aren't getting money I guess. I had heard his kids didn't have a relationship with him anymore and I thought that was kinda mean. When I was growing up my mom's family was very close and we took family vacations together every summer. As an adult I learned about his wild ways and cheating. I guess after his third wife left him he went very wild! My mom hasn't seen him in several years and she's been in nursing home over a year. My dad invited him for Christmas. I never saw him he came to my dad's house briefly and went to visit my mom. My brother told me he and his biker looking old man friend walked in and asked him (brother) & my 80 year old dad if they wanted weed or cocaine. They didn't stay long after that. I got to thinking about how I feel about my own funeral and old friends showing up to be nosy. If my mom or dad died tomorrow I would not call my uncle. If you don't have time for them when they are alive I don't see the point in coming when they are dead. All in all I feel sorry for my uncle because he's thrown away a relationship with his two children and many grandchildren. Mostly I feel sorry for my mom. He's the only family that's left other than her immediate family. I really can't blame drugs on his behavior. I believe he has been a lost soul for most of his life.
If we cannot forgive, how can we hope to be forgiven? If we wrong someone, and later see the error of our ways, we hope they will forgive us. If no one has wronged this guy, your uncle, you can still hope he will see the error of his ways and want to reconcile with whatever is left of his family. Not my business either way, and I can see why you would want to sever ties with him, but you being civil to him, may someday be the one thing that brings him back to where he needs to be. JMO, for what its worth...which admittedly aint much.
I've always known my uncle was on the wild side and it didn't matter to me. I've had my days (years) of being wild and doing things I shouldn't. I only had two uncles one on each side and loved them both, have great memories I'll cherish forever. My dad's brother is dead. He had some issues also but we didn't find out until a few months before he died. The uncle that's living was the fun uncle growing up. We went to Kings Dominion and Disney World a lot in the 70s and he was the one you wanted to ride rides with, especially the tea cups. I know about evil Disney! We didn't know about it and I'll always cherish my memories with family. Sure if he cleaned up I would be around him. I wouldn't chance it now because I have a granddaughter under a year old. I always thought his childhood were brainwashed against him by their mom but now I get it. It's so much more that he's done I haven't mentioned. The worst was he was stealing money from my grandparents.