You sure seem determined to twist my words around to mean things that I didn't actually say. Maybe I'm just not doing a very good job of explaining my point.

First of all, the right to judge a person in the eternal sense (getting to heaven or not) does not belong to you or I or anyone else on this earth. That right belongs only to God and to his son who died so that we would have the possibility of redemption through repentance. We can judge the actions of others so that we can make decisions about whether or not to trust them in the future and how to deal with them going forward, but the right of eternal judgment is not ours, it's God's.

We are taught that we should forgive unconditionally. Not forget, not exempt the sinner from punishment or other consequences, but forgive them. That's not an easy thing to do, and most of us (myself for certain) fail often at forgiving people. Whether or not they have done the necessary things to repent and earn forgiveness is irrelevant to whether or not we are supposed to actually forgive them. It is possible to forgive someone and still remember what they did and hold them responsible and even punish them for it. Forgiveness and punishment/consequences are not mutually exclusive. It is possible to forgive a child molester and still convict them and put them in prison so they can't do it again. I don't think I could forgive such a person, but Jesus can, and we are supposed to strive to be like him.