IDK what to believe anymore. I was trying to research this and of course because the billion dollar rehab industry is against it, I'm sus - even though the arguments against are pretty logical.
Anyone have any experience with this personally or with a loved one?
That's exactly it, you have to want it. First time I went a year sober because of a DUI, was always figuring out ways... had to "leave town" etc.
Second time I did it for others, pretended I wanted to be sober to get my family off my back about it.
Third time I really wanted it for myself, admitted I was powerless blah blah blah. Then my my brain started playing tricks on me. I started thinking that if I quit for a year I must not be an alcoholic, I can control it and just have a few beers when out to eat. Next day I'm grabbing a six-pack, day after a twelve pack and next thing you know you're hiding a bottle in your desk at work.
I go to AA now not because I need the steps, sponsor or fellowship to stay sober, I need to hear that guy crying because his wife took the kids and left or the guy who just got out of prison for running someone over while wasted. I need that reminder of how shitty my life could be if I cave into my desire. I am more productive, save a TON of money and don't feel like shit every morning now. I just tell everyone I'm allergic to alcohol when they invite me out, tell them I got tired of breaking out in handcuffs from too many drinks.
They gotta hit rock bottom usually to want to change, I'm fortunate that it didn't take me loosing everything to want sobriety.