Best thing to do? Make it clear that its all her responsibility since she made the decision without asking you.
But it helps to look at this from a 1000 ft view. This person seems to be a person who does not have emotional discipline to handle tough situations, not maturity required to be a equal partner in a marriage (Dont hate me for what I say, you asked for help)
My best advice is to first and foremost read up on bpd and ask yourself if your wife might be a bpd. Ruling that out is very important because if she is, there is really no hope of things getting better. (Sadly, my guess is that she probably is on the higher end of that spectrum).
Regardless, here is a question you have to ask yourself. If your wife happens to be a very toxic person who does not respect your feelings, emotions or well beings while she is impulsive and has no compunction painting you as the bad guy - and just hypothetically say that this is the immutable reality and there is nothing you can do to change her - what would you like to do going forward?
I just went and told her that I absolutely was not taking on another dog and that it was not right of her to tell the kids that we were. To which she said "mmhmm." I then said I also don't understand why someone would buy a dog then decide they're going to travel a lot and not want the dog. To which she started "THEY'RE GOOD PEOPLE" .... which I said I'm happy for us to find a home for the dog. Then she said she'd just take the dog and I'll take our dog. So I told her if that's what she wants to do, if she wants to make it her full responsibility, fine. Otherwise, I'm moving out and she can take on all responsibilites.
I feel like I'm in the freaking twilight zone.
Like this is absolutely bat shit crazy. We can't even pay our bills. Yet we're going to take on another responsibility.
Best thing to do? Make it clear that its all her responsibility since she made the decision without asking you.
But it helps to look at this from a 1000 ft view. This person seems to be a person who does not have emotional discipline to handle tough situations, not maturity required to be a equal partner in a marriage (Dont hate me for what I say, you asked for help)
My best advice is to first and foremost read up on bpd and ask yourself if your wife might be a bpd. Ruling that out is very important because if she is, there is really no hope of things getting better. (Sadly, my guess is that she probably is on the higher end of that spectrum).
Regardless, here is a question you have to ask yourself. If your wife happens to be a very toxic person who does not respect your feelings, emotions or well beings while she is impulsive and has no compunction painting you as the bad guy - and just hypothetically say that this is the immutable reality and there is nothing you can do to change her - what would you like to do going forward?
Yes. She definitely is.
I just went and told her that I absolutely was not taking on another dog and that it was not right of her to tell the kids that we were. To which she said "mmhmm." I then said I also don't understand why someone would buy a dog then decide they're going to travel a lot and not want the dog. To which she started "THEY'RE GOOD PEOPLE" .... which I said I'm happy for us to find a home for the dog. Then she said she'd just take the dog and I'll take our dog. So I told her if that's what she wants to do, if she wants to make it her full responsibility, fine. Otherwise, I'm moving out and she can take on all responsibilites.
I feel like I'm in the freaking twilight zone.
Like this is absolutely bat shit crazy. We can't even pay our bills. Yet we're going to take on another responsibility.
Are you referring to bpd, fren?
yes. I've researched it heavily in the past.
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