Please pray. Please, please pray. For my mental and emotional health. She just very quickly emptied out everything from the closet. My heart is just ... crushed.
Sorry I keep posting about all this stuff on here. I don't know where else to go to get prayer or healing.
Time to man up.
Looks like it's finally real.
Edit: F this. I'm tired of feeling sad about this shit, ya'll. F it. By the way when she did this I didn't even give it an ounce of energy. Which was different. I need to stop putting so much care on all this and let God handle it. Also, I might feel like this cause I just pumped weights for 30 minutes and listened some upbeat rock music. That'll do it.
Edit 2: And F this little u/KrisAngeln who was too afraid to post it publicly and wants to message me saying I'm a nonstarter and a cuck and that he hopes my wife gives my kids a different dad. F you bro for your lack of compassion - cant even post it publicly? I hope you don't go through multiple family suicides like I did. If you did, you'd know what the f*** pain feels like.
Anyway - I agree with a lot of the messages here. Focusing on myself and my kids now. I'm done. This will be my last sob story (I'm not saying I won't ask for prayers, though).
Dude, Relax. Chill. Desperation is unbecoming. That will only confirm her negative feelings. Read This Over and Over again and practice it over and over again. It will seem counterintuitive at first. But It works if you work it. 😉 Guaranteed.
How To Stop Your Divorce or Lover’s Rejection
Just. Click. The. Link.
thanks for that link. I'm several pages in. It makes complete sense. just be happy and do what you want to do, don't give care or energy to it
I literally gave it no attention. I put some earbuds in, listened to music, did some laundry, minded my business. Didn't even ask her what she was doing. Not going to show her that I care. Not going to feed the energy.
edit: also, will read the link
Gosh dude. This passage from the book is so real:
"She says, “You shouldn’t have been confrontational with Margaret. You know Russell doesn’t like that.” Well, mythought was, “I wasn’t confrontational with Margaret. She was with me.” That thought zipped through my head, but I had already programmed myself to always agree. So I said, “Honey, you’re right. I shouldn’t have been confrontational with Margaret. I should have learned my lesson three months ago when we visited, and Margaret and I got into a discussion and it didn’t work out well. I guess I’m just a slow learner, and I want to thank you for pointing it out to me that I could have handled it better.” Notice that I switched from the issue of whether I was confrontational or not, to that I could have handled it better, because it was even easier for me to agree with that. I could have handled it better by not even getting into a discussion with Margaret. Okay, what happened then, when I agreed with my wife’s criticism of me? I did not defend myself at all. I got on her side and jumped on me. Immediately she said, “But you were just trying to help.” And I said, “That’s true. But my method was wrong, because it wasn’t helping.” She said, “But I think Margaret has a very closed mind.” I said, “I do, too. But my method was wrong because it was not opening that closed mind. And I want to thank you for pointing it out to me that I could have handled it better.” She was very friendly and affectionate the rest of the evening. Always agree."
That is SUCH a good point. Stop defending your own self and instead just be in agreement. Going to try it.
There ya go. Practice makes perfect.