Disagree, the problem isn't the "no fault divorce", it's the degeneration of society, women getting most of the assets and full custody, etc. Most of them use it as a way making a quick buck.
The no divorce wouldn't be a problem if the assets were split right down the income levels.
Saw it first hand when my parents divorced in the 80’s, it wasn’t common at the time in Ireland, my mother got everything, even though she was cheating on my father with my now stepfather.
My father was no angel (alcoholism was very common in Irish men back then), but courts / law was stacked against him. My mother never worked a day in her life in a real job.
Us kids were used as leverage. She got everything including us kids, which meant maintenance payments, which were certainly not spent on us.
We lucked out with our stepfather, he raised us, our mother was lazy, mean and neglectful. Most of us abandoned ship at 18. Not a great childhood, but not a bad one either.
I’m not bitter by the way, it taught me to love and respect my own family. It was a good life lesson. Everything I have I earned.
Both men worked their asses off for her, I often wonder why. Life is strange.
And unfortunately we all have stories showing it's not fair either way.
I have an older friend who was married to a drunk who beatened her.
She had family if I recall correctly throw his drunk ass on a one way ticket train.
She remarried and he loved her greatly. (Eventually passed from Alzheimer's unfortunately / medical negligence during convid).
People shouldn't have to stay locked into abuse
"People shouldn't have to stay locked into abuse."
I completely agree! My position is not that one spouse should be able to trap another, but rather that there should be zero financial incentive for a spouse to lie to get out of a marriage.
The problem is that nobody wants to give up their standard of living for the sake of "escaping", and instead want to have it both ways. That's where the hypocrisy lies. That's where the financial incentive to lie and leave a spouse for a lover while taking half of their assets/income is real and ever present in divorce courts today under the moniker "irreconcilable differences."
Those who claim abuse should get proof and nail those assholes to the wall in the courts.
Disagree, the problem isn't the "no fault divorce", it's the degeneration of society, women getting most of the assets and full custody, etc. Most of them use it as a way making a quick buck.
The no divorce wouldn't be a problem if the assets were split right down the income levels.
Saw it first hand when my parents divorced in the 80’s, it wasn’t common at the time in Ireland, my mother got everything, even though she was cheating on my father with my now stepfather.
My father was no angel (alcoholism was very common in Irish men back then), but courts / law was stacked against him. My mother never worked a day in her life in a real job.
Us kids were used as leverage. She got everything including us kids, which meant maintenance payments, which were certainly not spent on us.
We lucked out with our stepfather, he raised us, our mother was lazy, mean and neglectful. Most of us abandoned ship at 18. Not a great childhood, but not a bad one either.
I’m not bitter by the way, it taught me to love and respect my own family. It was a good life lesson. Everything I have I earned.
Both men worked their asses off for her, I often wonder why. Life is strange.
And unfortunately we all have stories showing it's not fair either way. I have an older friend who was married to a drunk who beatened her. She had family if I recall correctly throw his drunk ass on a one way ticket train. She remarried and he loved her greatly. (Eventually passed from Alzheimer's unfortunately / medical negligence during convid). People shouldn't have to stay locked into abuse
u/Maccachook1
I completely agree! My position is not that one spouse should be able to trap another, but rather that there should be zero financial incentive for a spouse to lie to get out of a marriage.
The problem is that nobody wants to give up their standard of living for the sake of "escaping", and instead want to have it both ways. That's where the hypocrisy lies. That's where the financial incentive to lie and leave a spouse for a lover while taking half of their assets/income is real and ever present in divorce courts today under the moniker "irreconcilable differences."
Those who claim abuse should get proof and nail those assholes to the wall in the courts.