I've talked to you all about my divorce previously (15 years, wife decided she wanted to leave as soon as she graduated and got her degree after I supported her and worked multiple jobs).
She's officially moving out in two weeks. Then, my lease ends in just five weeks.
Landlord already told me they're going to be selling the home and also raising rent nearly 40% if I wanted to stay. Can't afford it. Have no where to go.
Going to transition to being a 'nomad', selling the remaining few things I own, and just bouncing from airbnb to airbnb along with camping. I figured this would be a good opportunity for me to get out, travel, visit national parks, kayak, camp, fish, see the US and get my mind off everything. It's not stable. But I can't find anything. Everywhere requires "3x income" or some ridiculous score that I don't have.
Anyway. Not sure why I'm posting this here. Guess I just wanted to share with you all since I never did give any updates from my previous posts about "what should I do?"
So, really, for me, the storm is here. And the "build back better" now makes so much sense in my personal life. Weird that now I now have to suddenly build my life back. I've completely lost my identity.
No clue where this road is going to take me. But it's either 'get busy living or get busy dying.'
Say a few prayers for me. God has been good to me recently and has gotten me into the 'acceptance' phase of all this.
Edit: By the way, if anyone wants to give me a follow over on X, I'll be documenting all of my journeys. Hoping to one day get some camera gear and a drone and film everything. Might make some personal podcasts and documenting my testimony. Maybe it'll help someone in the future. https://twitter.com/@thinktankfranks
I didn’t read your first post but I’ve read this one and can see you’re struggling with your divorce. I did too when I went through one years ago. It was a very nasty divorce from her side, I stayed civil for my 2 daughters sake. It ruined me and I hit some darkness in my life, when I was at my lowest, a light came into my life, my wife now. Things happen for a reason my friend, traveling may be good thing, clear your head and focus on you. Things will get better, have faith.
Sorry you went through this, too - amazing that you found someone else. I've told myself I will never marry again. I don't think I'll ever date again, either. I have no trust anymore. It is totally shattered. There is certainly darkness to this. Sounds lame, but Adele "we could have had it all" came on the radio the other day when I was driving and I had a private melt down ... really does feel like that. Pretty crazy how some songs just hit so true.
Please don't judge everyone based on the actions of one. There are good women out there. We may be hard to find but we are growing in numbers. Bless you and prayers that after you heal you realize we are not made to be alone. God charges us find mates for his glory.